Dating and the Pointer

Can you stop?

You might have been with someone for a while and the two of you might share the same interests and care about each other, but you might have one issue. You might have an issue that your partner points at people while he or she talks about them, and this might bother you. So, what do you do if your partner points at people while he or she talks about them? How do you approach this type of situation? Though the answers may be different for everyone, here are a few suggestions.

1. Discuss this issue with your partner.

Let your partner know how you feel about this issue and listen to what he or she has to say about it. Do your best to compromise on a way to solve the issue so both of you are on the same page.

2. Speak up.

If you catch your partner pointing at someone after the two of you have discussed the issue, then try to speak up when it happens. This might help remind your partner that this issue bothers you, and he or she might refrain from doing this.

3. Find a different gesture.

If your partner is trying to point someone out to you, try to find a different way for him or her to do so. This might help him or her with his or her pointing habit while allowing him or her to create new habits.

If you and your partner care about each other but you have an issue with your partner’s pointing habit, then talk to him or her about this. Speak up if necessary, and assist your partner in creating new habits if you can.