Dating and the Flirtatious Friend
Set your boundaries.
You might have finally found someone that you connect with, and you might be feeling like the relationship is going really well. However, the two of you might have one issue. You might have a friend that is interested in your partner. So, what do you do if your friend is constantly flirting with your other half? How do you approach this type of situation? Though the answers to these questions may be different for everyone, here are a few suggestions.
1. Talk to your partner.
Let your partner know what you have observed and ask him or her if he or she has observed the same thing. Discuss your concerns when it comes to this issue, and listen to your partner’s thoughts on how to handle it. Try to agree on a way to deal with this issue so both of you can move forward.
2. Talk to your friend.
Have a discussion with the friend that is flirting with your partner and let him or her know if you are uncomfortable with this type of interaction. See if he or she is willing to back off and find someone else to share his or her affection with, and if he or she isn’t then, you may have to reflect on your friendship and determine whether or not spending less time with this person is in your best interest.
3. Be assertive.
Vocalize your feelings regarding the situation when it occurs. This might help all parties understand what your boundaries are and it might help deter the situation from occurring.
If you have a friend that flirts with your partner and you are uncomfortable with this situation, talk to your partner and your friend. Set your boundaries and try to be on the same page as your partner.
