Dating and the divine masculine and feminine energies

It is helpful to know your own tendencies

Masculine and feminine consciousness are key forces at play in the world of dating.

Know that every single one of us carries both forms of energy. A man can lead with feminine energy, and a woman can lead with masculine energy. Both sides are needed for us to lead successful and balanced lives.

What exactly is this divine energy?

So let’s delve into what they are and where they come from. When we are born, and as we grow as young children, we are mini-sponges. Our environments are constant sources of stimuli, behaviors, judgments, and models of behavior. Through childhood and young adulthood, our self-concepts continue to evolve through different experiences. These guide the balance of our masculine and feminine energy.

We all will naturally lead with one form of energy over the other. This tendency is based on both the essence of who we are and these past life experiences. I want to particularly emphasize the importance that our parental models have on this dynamic in us.

Masculine energy is about giving and doing. This energy is supportive, decisive, grounded, and focused on freedom. Logic-based thinking is considered masculine in energy, as it is brain-based. It is more rigid and solid. About 80% of men lead with masculine energy.

The feminine is more of an accepting and receiving energy, but also about creation and intuition. The qualities include reflection, empathy, vulnerability, magnetism, sensuality, and authenticity. There is a focus on safety, movement, or dance, surrendering to the natural flow and relaxing into what is. Emotion-based thinking is considered feminine in energy, as it is heart-based. Around 80% of women lead with feminine energy.

How the energies work together

It is important to note how the polarity in the divine feminine and masculine brings people together. Magnets of opposing polarities are drawn together. A deeply masculine person will feel a natural draw to a deeply feminine person in a romantic relationship. If both lead either with the masculine or the feminine, there will be less polarity due to the energies being too similar.

Where does a wound originate?

Now, let’s get into a core energetic wound. This can occur when someone judges, censors, scares us, or offers some other negative reinforcement in response to us expressing ourselves in our leading energy. The negativity causes us to lack core masculine or feminine energy compared to what we see as the ideal. Or leading with this core energy no longer feels safe. These bad experiences can lead us to embrace the polar opposite energy to feel better again. Thus, your leading energy is changed.

For example, being shamed as a young girl for wearing a dress you loved that was too short could cause a small wound to your divine feminine energy as a female. Having this happen at different times when you are expressing your femininity, such as while dancing or expressing your creativity, can lead you to feel femininity is not safe. This could cause you to run toward more masculine energy. In extreme cases, vital feminine forces like inspiration, collaboration, and creativity can be lost to decisive action and more rigid thinking. It would be best if you had both types of energy to accomplish big things. They are two sides of a coin, and one is not more important than the other.

People pleasing, manipulative behavior, feeling like a victim, lacking firm boundaries with others, and continuously chasing love are other common signs of divine feminine energy wounds in women. You can think of the feminine core wound as being overly liquid and lacking in structure.

If your mother was domineering over your father when you were a young boy, you might doubt the power of divine male energy. At the root of wounded masculine energy is a feeling that force is needed to accomplish anything. It results in overthinking and overdoing. In dating, this often manifests as being controlling and manipulative. You can think of the masculine core wound as being overly solid and rigid in every way. Power grabs and corruption are two behaviors on the shadow side of divine masculine energy. This can happen if the energy moves away from maturity, and the person gets stuck in a neverending quest for power and needs for perceived superiority over others.

The divine energies and dating

As you date, it is essential to be aware of and work to heal your wounds and the painful experiences behind them. Healing these wounds requires forgiving the sources of the wounds. You can use a tool like the H’oppoponno forgiveness prayer or EFT/tapping to clear these energies.

Not healing your own core wounds can keep you stuck in behaviors that prevent you from reaching your goals.

Once you start working to heal the core insecurities, sadness, or fears at the core of your own wounds, your dating life will improve. For example, as a woman, you might want to remain in masculine divine energy at work. But then focus on being more in your feminine on dates. When you do this, you are simply accessing your own core energies. So please use it only for good!

How you can work to heal and strengthen these energies

Here are some tips for strengthening your divine energy as you date.

If you are a man and want to evoke more masculine energy, you can:

• Focus on being aware during dates and conversations
• Touch your date (appropriately) in a flirtatious way
• Advise them on a topic or help them through an obstacle
• Focus on observing, rather than reacting, as your date speaks
• Speak to them from the center of your chest, where your masculine energy emanates from

To work on connecting with your feminine energy as a man, focus on movement, intuition, relaxation, and connecting with your deeper emotions. Dance to music, go for a swim or watch a sappy movie.

If you are a woman that wants to evoke more feminine energy, try:

• Wearing clothes, perfume, or makeup that makes you feel beautiful
• Dancing or meditating
• Speaking more softly and slowing down your actions
• Leaning back and allowing the man to plan dates.
• Reminding yourself that you are open to and desire love
• Imagining your energy at the center of your womb and speaking from this place

To work on your masculine energy as a woman, focus on observing, supporting, or getting something done well before the deadline.

Clear communication and the showing of interest and support are also vital as you date. Both parties must feel safe and cared for in a relationship to strengthen and grow into its full potential.

A monogamous partnership is about the two people in it. For this reason, it’s key to meet your partner halfway.

Pay attention to how you are showing up in your relationships. I recommend exploring both masculine and feminine energies as you date. Once you can meet a great partner as a divine equal in the dating dance, you will be setting the stage for a fantastic and fulfilling long-term relationship.