Dating and Doggy Style Cheating

I can’t believe you.

You might have been friends with someone for a while, and your friend may have gotten in a new relationship. The three of you may have spent some time hanging out together and though you have tried to get along with your friend’s other half, you might be bothered that your friend’s partner flirts with you. So, how do you let your friend know this is happening? How do you approach this type of situation? Though the answers to these questions might be different for everyone, here are a few suggestions.

1. Set boundaries with your friend’s partner.

Let your friend’s new boyfriend or girlfriend know how you feel about his or her advances. Discuss boundaries so you can be more comfortable around him or her, and do your best to set ground rules with this person.

2. Talk to your friend about it.

Let your friend know what happened and when it occurred. Discuss if this is normal behavior for his or her partner, and let your friend know how you feel about it. See if your friend is willing to talk to his or her partner so it doesn’t occur again.

3. Hang out with different people.

If neither your friend or his or her partner see an issue with the flirting, then do your best to find someone else to spend time with for a while. This might help you regroup and it might allow you to spend time in a more comfortable environment.

If you are friends with someone whose partner flirts with you, and you don’t appreciate his or her flirtatious advances, then talk to your friend and his or her partner. Try to set boundaries, and give yourself time for reflection on the situation.