HOPE AND HEALING

Dancing on Graves

A figurative and literal way to release healing, hope, and vindication in your life.

Death is equated with barrenness and desolation. This story describes how healing and positivity emerge when you let go of things that have broken you in the past as well as those things that lack vitality and are simply dead in your life.

I once knew someone who often described how devastating it was for them to exist in an abusive marriage as a young adult. The person often said that during their period of unhappiness with their former spouse they established one desire in life. It became their goal to seek retaliation for the harm their spouse inflicted upon them by looking forward to a time when they would be able to dance on their grave. That person knew that the reckless lifestyle of their spouse would lead them to an early death. And it did.

As fate would have it, the evil spouse passed away at a young age. When they died, the person who had been abused by their deceased partner prepared to receive the healing they desperately desired.

With a bottle of wine in hand, that person stood at the grave of the deceased and denounced all the bad they had done to them. In doing so, they also danced. That literal time of healing enabled them to move on with their life in peace and happiness as their dreadful past was forever released.

Confronting Metaphoric Death

Sometimes people are bound by horrific circumstances in life.

Being subjected to discrimination, disrespect, and maltreatment are among the forms of hatred that can steal the spirit out of your body.

It’s difficult to function when another individual, group of people, or organization blatantly takes opportunities from you. These crude people erase your very existence as they stomp on your soul to block their next level of accomplishment and promotion. They refuse to allow you to move forward to embrace positivity in life.

Whether it’s an estranged family member, devious employer, or despicable acquaintance, the evil acts that these people perpetuate against you make you feel dead. And the life that you try to affirm makes you feel like you are dying a slow death that leads to obscurity and invisibility.

You become forced to fight your way out of depression, sadness, and defeat. And it becomes your exclusive battle because no one in your life understands your battle. This is because some minimize its reality while others doubt that it’s real.

Alone, you become determined to declare that you are still alive even though you have been buried under the depths of despair because others dug your grave and threw your limp and degraded life, hopes, and dreams into a pit of proverbial garbage. That’s how your enemies regarded you. As trash. And pure nothingness. They considered you worthless and dead.

But the fight within you ignites a light in your heart that causes you to dig your way out of the death chamber that held you captive. Your fighting spirit gives you the determination to break the chains of defeat that contributed to the demise that your adversaries craved for you. The light that only resided in your heart now illuminates the path that you follow and allows you to boldly declare that you are very much alive.

In doing so, you defeat the death that once captured you. You rise above the adverse circumstances that once consumed you.

Just Dance

When you pause and reflect on the obstacles your strength of character and determination allowed you to break through because your endured your battle to get to where you are in life, and the miraculous occurs.

You discover that you and you alone have complete power over those things that were once dead in your life. And you, too, can dance on the grave of those things.

So, dance!

That dance will release you from past experiences, hurts, sorrow, humiliation, and hardship. You will finally be free. Free to be who you are and free to enjoy your journey. You will be healed and vindicated, too.

Thank you for reading this story. I hope it uplifts you.

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Dr. Deborah M. Vereen is a retired Teacher and School Administrator. Her website is www.Drdeborahmvereen.com and her YouTube Channel is

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