Creating A Life Worth Living
As a well known quote says, “the decisions we make, dictate the lives we lead.” It’s a quote with a concept that’s not too difficult to understand. Not always, however quite often, our lives go in directions based on choices and decisions that we made in our past.
If we want to make changes in our lives, we need to make changes and choices now, to assure that the positive future we desire, will unfold, and occur. DBT touches on this theory. They refer to it as “Accumulating Positive Emotions,” and it’s the guidelines they use in order to help teach us how to use those accumulated positive emotions to “build a life worth living.”
One of the things that comes recommended is to follow a quote called “avoid avoiding.” This can cover so many different things. An important factor is, we need to begin trying hard to overcome our fears, new and old.
Often times, much of what we avoid is avoided out of a fear of the unknown, or a worry that one might fail. It can be a coping mechanism subconsciously used to protect ourselves from any potential harm. Unfortunately, it does more harm than good. Much of what we feel we needs protection from, is entirely based on over exaggeration of worries that are often hardly validated.
As we’re running an inventory of our lives, looking for ways to improving, a good thing to ask ourselves is what morals do we feel to be the most important? Also, how about our values as well?
Morals and values are an important part for anybody’s development, but society, which ones do YOU feel most important? Make that question personal. Ask you, what’s important to you. NOT what society thinks is best. Sometimes, you just gotta do you first. If you want to give the world your best self, then you must first create that best self. That all includes things, some of which are being mentally and physically healthy. If you aren’t where your health needs to be, then do what’s possible to bring it back to health. Be productive in society. Respect people.
Try to connect to goals that best suit you, and you feel are ones you strongly support, and in favor of. Ask yourself what things are realistically able to be accomplished. Then, figure out what completed goals are most likely to contribute improvement to our lives. What are the pros and cons of each? Start working on a goal today.
While working on this process there is a likely chance that you may actually get to know yourself all over again. You will learn more about your hopes and dreams, as well as some passions that you may not had known you even had. A wonderful part of this is, we may find out we have capabilities far beyond what we grew to learn. When our self esteem was at its worst, our capabilities were at their very worst as well.
Take time each day to remember our gratitude. Be thankful, and keep it fresh that with faith can come contentment, happiness, and success. Success is not measured by the all mighty dollar. Some rich people, are miserable, and hate life.
Keep the outlook on life as an optimistic hope for the best. Live each day one by one. Don’t live the future. The best way truly is to live one day at a time. Don’t dwell on the past. However, there’s plenty of chances to learn from the past. When the hard times hit, I guarantee you, that a lesson will come out of it. Just wait and see.
