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t is to make it very clear they’re to blame. Also, telling them how it made you feel is less likely to cause them to get defensive.</p><p id="15af">A clarification. When you tell them how it made you feel, be truthful but don’t be overdramatic. The point is to make them understand you, not to make them feel like a jerk. Again, we don’t want them to get overly defensive.</p><h1 id="4ae1">Let Them Talk</h1><p id="aa3c">Okay, now that you’ve let them know how you feel, you need to give them a chance to respond. Hopefully, you were able to speak to them in a way that conveyed your issue but didn’t cause them to stop listening or become overly defensive. If so, there’s a good chance their response will be something you want to hear.</p><p id="7d24">If you think you did a good job but they’re still freaking out, you may need to analyze this relationship. Walking away from a toxic relationship can often be one of the most freeing things you’ll do. Family, friends, significant others, it doesn’t matter. There’s no relationship so important that you can’t benefit from walking away if need be.</p><h1 id="c591">Listen</h1><p id="7990">Whether you brought up the issue or they brought up the issue, you still need to listen. Listening seems simple but a lot of people are really bad at it. So, I’ll give you a few things you can do to be a better listener.</p><p id="c01c">The first thing is that you have to be quiet and avoid interrupting them. If you need clarification you can file that away and ask later. The important part is to let them talk and allow them to feel heard. It’s hard to feel heard if someone is interrupting you every other minute. Even if they’re questions based on what has been said.</p><p id="c5a3">The next thing is that you have to actually listen. That means that you aren’t just sitting the

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re waiting for you turn to talk. You need to listen to them. Honestly, I’d do your best to avoid thinking overly hard about what they’re even saying in the moment. If you think too much you might miss something important.</p><p id="9675">Okay, so you didn’t interrupt them and were actively listening. You let yourself hear everything. What next? Well, presumably you’re being given a chance to respond. Take a moment. Take a few if need be. If they seem worried about your lack of response just let them know you’re thinking about what they said.</p><p id="f216">Basically, you’ve heard what they said and now you’re fully processing it. Once you’ve had a chance to fully process everything than you can speak. Well, first there’s one more thing.</p><p id="48e7">You might be upset about what has been said. The take a moment part can also be to allow yourself to calm down. Once you’ve calmed down, than you need to really think about what they said.</p><h1 id="feaa">Touch Bases Later</h1><p id="bd66">This is just a repeat of all of the above but you’re doing it again to make sure that things have been resolved. Sometimes we can do something we think fixes the problem but maybe it didn’t. Or maybe you just messed up a bit. Now is the time to get this figured out.</p><p id="1aa3">As I’ve said and I’ll say again and again, communication is hugely important. Knowing how to properly communicate can be absolutely critical in any relationship. Now that you’ve learned how to properly communicate start doing so. It’ll take a bit of time and practice to get really good at it.</p><p id="5ab1">A lot of important discussions are often emotionally charged. Following this advice will help take some of that energy and mellow it out. Things will likely be tense anyway but do your best. I believe in you!</p></article></body>

Communication is Crucial For Successful Relationships

Here’s how you can get better at communicating!

So, I’ve mentioned communication in numerous other articles. I’ve explained how it’s often the most important part of a relationship.

It’s true. Being able to properly communicate is tremendously important for any kind of successful relationship. Whether that be romantic or otherwise. So, let’s get into a few ways you can improve your communication skills!

Speak Up

This can be really hard for some people. It’s often easier to just deal with whatever is bothering you than to speak up. The problem is that if you have an issue, it’s just going to eat at you. Without speaking up you aren’t giving any chance at resolving the issue.

Okay, so speaking up is important but let’s talk about how you should go about doing so for the best effects. Let the person you want to talk to know that you want to talk. Once you’re able to sit back and you have their attention, you tell them the problem or issue.

What’s important here is that you don’t want to attack the person. If you go on the offensive, call them names and the like, they’re going to get defensive and stop listening.

While speaking about your issue, focus more on how you feel rather than on what they did. It’s more important for them to know how you feel than it is to make it very clear they’re to blame. Also, telling them how it made you feel is less likely to cause them to get defensive.

A clarification. When you tell them how it made you feel, be truthful but don’t be overdramatic. The point is to make them understand you, not to make them feel like a jerk. Again, we don’t want them to get overly defensive.

Let Them Talk

Okay, now that you’ve let them know how you feel, you need to give them a chance to respond. Hopefully, you were able to speak to them in a way that conveyed your issue but didn’t cause them to stop listening or become overly defensive. If so, there’s a good chance their response will be something you want to hear.

If you think you did a good job but they’re still freaking out, you may need to analyze this relationship. Walking away from a toxic relationship can often be one of the most freeing things you’ll do. Family, friends, significant others, it doesn’t matter. There’s no relationship so important that you can’t benefit from walking away if need be.

Listen

Whether you brought up the issue or they brought up the issue, you still need to listen. Listening seems simple but a lot of people are really bad at it. So, I’ll give you a few things you can do to be a better listener.

The first thing is that you have to be quiet and avoid interrupting them. If you need clarification you can file that away and ask later. The important part is to let them talk and allow them to feel heard. It’s hard to feel heard if someone is interrupting you every other minute. Even if they’re questions based on what has been said.

The next thing is that you have to actually listen. That means that you aren’t just sitting there waiting for you turn to talk. You need to listen to them. Honestly, I’d do your best to avoid thinking overly hard about what they’re even saying in the moment. If you think too much you might miss something important.

Okay, so you didn’t interrupt them and were actively listening. You let yourself hear everything. What next? Well, presumably you’re being given a chance to respond. Take a moment. Take a few if need be. If they seem worried about your lack of response just let them know you’re thinking about what they said.

Basically, you’ve heard what they said and now you’re fully processing it. Once you’ve had a chance to fully process everything than you can speak. Well, first there’s one more thing.

You might be upset about what has been said. The take a moment part can also be to allow yourself to calm down. Once you’ve calmed down, than you need to really think about what they said.

Touch Bases Later

This is just a repeat of all of the above but you’re doing it again to make sure that things have been resolved. Sometimes we can do something we think fixes the problem but maybe it didn’t. Or maybe you just messed up a bit. Now is the time to get this figured out.

As I’ve said and I’ll say again and again, communication is hugely important. Knowing how to properly communicate can be absolutely critical in any relationship. Now that you’ve learned how to properly communicate start doing so. It’ll take a bit of time and practice to get really good at it.

A lot of important discussions are often emotionally charged. Following this advice will help take some of that energy and mellow it out. Things will likely be tense anyway but do your best. I believe in you!