Coffee Can Make Anything into a Date
Finding Love & Joy in the Mundane
I am obsessed with coffee. I talk about it a lot. I take myself out for coffee. I go out for coffee with friends and family. I also love going out for coffee with my husband.
I have a lot of love for coffee, but I only drink it 1–2 times a week. To me, it is a special treat. (I also have a higher heart rate due to anxiety. So, I try not to add on a caffeine addiction.)
Funny Side Story: Last night, my husband was sleepily talking to me. We were talking about women and men. He said that he didn’t think like most men, and then, he proceeded to tell me that I am the stereotypical woman. I was in a good mood. So, instead of having a crazy reaction, it was more like, “Um, thanks?”
He couldn’t figure out what he was trying to say, and I DEFINITELY couldn’t figure out what he was trying to say. Finally, after many moments of more awful wording, he said, “You know? You like coffee and girly things.”
PHEW! I had no idea what he was insinuating. A basic white girl and a stereotypical woman are two very different things in my book.
Long story short: Even my husband sums me up by saying that I really like coffee.
So, with that little peek at my love for coffee, let’s just say… There’s A LOT I am willing to do to get some.
My husband deals with all of the car stuff, but I still tag along most of the time.
When it comes to cars, my husband and I are polar opposites. I can hardly pump a tire, and he can pretty much fix anything. (In all of the time that we have been married, we have never gone to the mechanic.)
My dad used to try to teach me how to do car things, but I pretty much refused to listen. I hate dealing with cars. My dad always did it for me. He would ask me all of the time, “What are you going to do when you are on your own, and I can’t do it all for you?” I’d always tell him, “I am going to marry a man that can.”
So, here we are. I still find it just as boring and overwhelming.
My husband and I live in a small town in TN, and we usually have to drive 40 minutes to an hour to get to a bigger city to get things done.
On this day, we needed to drive to buy tires from someone on Facebook marketplace, and then, we’d have to go somewhere else to get them balanced and put on. BORING!!!
So, we got coffee before we left. I sat in the passenger seat to help navigate and play music. I got to sip my coffee and enjoy a nice ride around TN with my husband. I was as content as I could be. (If you have ever heard the name, “Passenger Princess,” that’s almost always me.)
Coffee makes everything more fun too.
It’s not just about making the mundane more pleasant… It’s also about making the fun even more fun.
For my birthday in June, I had requested that my husband and I go paint, but I also really wanted to get coffee beforehand too.
We both had soooo much fun. My husband had never painted pottery before, and he kept telling me how much he enjoyed it.
It was a perfect day, and getting coffee was the perfect start.
There are so many little joys in life.
Coffee just happens to be one of mine. Maybe, you really like tea, or if you are like my dad and hate tea and coffee with a passion, Coke may be your favorite. It may not even be a drink.
The point is… Find you and your spouse a “coffee.”
My husband doesn’t love coffee the way I do, but he still enjoys it. Coffee for us makes the good times a little sweeter, and the meh times a little more enjoyable.
What’s your “coffee”? And does your spouse enjoy it too? 🤍
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