Clear signs that you are "used" in a relationship
A couple’s relationship is based on respect, understanding, and reciprocity.
Many relationships end due to the fact that one of the partners is not as involved and does not provide enough evidence of love, perhaps because his love is long gone. In this situation, it happens that the other person feels used or unappreciated and the end of the connection between them is the enemy.
You just have to be more discriminating with the help you render toward other people. Raise your standards so that others will see that you do not allow them to treat you inappropriately or to look for your weaknesses in order to manipulate you and thus you will have only people around you who respect you.
1. Only you fight for the relationship It is not true love if he does not take any steps to save the relationship and if only you reacted in difficult situations, trying to fix everything that did not work. You should think twice if you want to stay with a partner you can’t rely on all your life who doesn’t believe in your future together. A man who is always waiting to get you out of his troubles is a man who will not change and will always wait for you to do everything for him.
2. Your partner is just talking about him If the person next to you never listens to you and takes every opportunity to brag or tell you just what he did in your absence, it is clear that he does not care about you and is not at all interested in you. He is probably in that relationship out of convenience or because of the benefits he has, but his involvement is completely lacking. We all need a partner to support us, listen to us, and understand us.
3. Never say thank you If you are in a relationship where no gesture is appreciated, then you are not with the right person. The ideal partner will be grateful for the things you do for him and your partner. On the other hand, if he thinks that he deserves everything and that it is absolutely normal for him to receive your help without giving thanks, the truth is that he deserves nothing from you and you should immediately give up the toxic relationship you are in.
4. Only you take care of the common expenses You are clearly in an interest-based relationship if your partner does not contribute to the common expenses. You don’t have to pay for everything, no matter how much you love him and no matter how much pity he inspires you. True, this can be bypassed-but not unless you’re a techie who knows what he’s doing.
5. It never satisfies your emotional needs You are in a relationship where you are used to if your partner only thinks about his physical needs and has no interaction with you after satisfying them. He should know that you also have emotional needs that he should take into account so that everything will be fine between you. You will never have a harmonious relationship if only one feels good and the other does not.
If you feel abandoned, ignored or unappreciated, you should know that your relationship is one based on interest and that your partner only uses you. Coexisting with your partner should fulfill you, help you feel special and give you confidence, so don’t stay with someone who makes you feel like a idiot and make an effort in vain.
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