Children learn by Watching what you DO, not as much from what you say.
Want to teach your children — show them by How you Live and Act.
It’s interesting to me that my husband’s parents constantly complain about and criticize their first son’s life and financial choices; however, they do the same things (just in different ways) as he does, so where the fuck do you think he learned it from?
I love my husband dearly and think he is damn near perfect, at least for me and the life we live together, but I taught him and showed him how to be more financially responsible — NOT his parents!
If you want your children to have better habits, you need to teach them through your own habits and choices EVERY DAMN DAY! If you have ‘bad’ habits and make ‘not great’ choices, then what on earth do you think they are learning from you?
Sure, sometimes we learn what we don’t want — which I know I did from at least one of my siblings growing-up, but we typically learn from those that influence us by how they lead their own lives.
If you eat unhealthily and don’t exercise, what do you think you are teaching your children? As one of my favorite role-models and teachers, Dr. Michael Greger, says “The primary reason diseases tend to run in families may be that diets tend to run in families”, and the same is likely true for many other habits and tendencies…
I might not have children of my own, but I was a child and I helped raise my nephews as I was also still a child. I have been around many children and worked with many student athletes. I do love, respect, appreciate, admire, and even learn from children — I just don’t have any of my own, unless you count my fur babies.
Just because I do not have children does not mean I do not care about them or understand them, and it certainly shouldn’t mean that I am ‘not allowed’ to have any opinions about them — so please, just hear me out and know that all I ever really want to do is help.
If you are having a hard time with your child, perhaps take a step back and think about what impacts their daily lives have on creating the little human being you are, hopefully, working hard to raise. Understand that they are learning and growing with you and from you. Understand that they understand things differently than you do — as anyone separate from us does, but this is different, because children have a unique way of looking at, interpreting, and understanding many things than we do — I mean, just their creativity at problem solving shows us that!
If you treat your child or others in your life with disrespect, what are you teaching them? If you allow yourself to be treated poorly or disrespectfully, what are you teaching them? Perhaps to be mistreated and disrespected, or perhaps to be the one who does the disrespecting and mistreating!
Also, just as society needs rules and boundaries, so too do our children — and better yet, they even crave it (at least to a certain extent) because it shows you give a damn! Of course, it needs to be reasonable; otherwise, they are likely going to rebel or become doormats. Balance in all things.
Anyway, I could go on, but I feel like this might already hit hard and Lord only knows what kind of comments I am likely to receive…
Being a parent isn’t easy. It is hard, dedicated, conscious work each and every day, an dI commend anyone taking it seriously. Children did not ask to be brought into this world and we have a responsibility as parents and a society to love and support and teach them, and we do that best by the actions we take on a regular basis in and outside of the home by each and every person who comes into their lives.
We are ALL responsible for raising our children, even if like me, we don’t have any of our own … the saying ‘it takes a village’ means we all participate, and I think that happens weather we want it to or not simply by existing in the same world as them …
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