Cheaters Can Change. I Did
“Infidelity is a symptom of the relationship’s underlying problems, not the cause.” — Shirley Glass
As someone who has cheated in the past, I can attest to the changes that can occur when one confronts their own actions and commits to growth.
My story begins with a series of reckless decisions fuelled by insecurity and selfish desires. I could never say no.
I found myself entangled in an affair, seeking validation and excitement outside of my committed relationship of 2 years with one of the most loving women I’d ever known.
At the time, I justified my actions with excuses and rationalizations, but deep down, It was eating me up.
I knew I was betraying the trust of someone I cared about deeply.
I was confronted by my then-girlfriend. It was a sobering realization to come face to face with the pain I had inflicted upon someone I deeply cared about.
Witnessing the hurt in her eyes was a stark reminder of the damage I had caused, not just to our relationship but to her trust and sense of security.
I was forced to confront uncomfortable truths about my own flaws and insecurities.
I was insecure. I didn’t think I was good enough to receive the love of my then-partner wholly. She loved me and I clearly couldn’t accept it. That had everything to do with me and nothing to do with her. She was so good to me.
The journey toward transformation was not easy.
It required me to delve into the root causes of my behaviour, to confront my own demons, and to take responsibility for the pain I had caused.
It meant facing difficult conversations and making amends with my partner, knowing that forgiveness was not guaranteed.
We tried for a while but ultimately she was better off without me. I’m happy that we’re on civil terms today.
But through this process of introspection and self-discovery, I began to recognize the value of honesty, integrity, and commitment.
I learned that true love is not just a feeling but a choice we make every day to prioritize the well-being and happiness of our partner.
I realized that the thrill of fleeting passion could never compare to the depth and richness of a genuine, faithful connection(s)
Today, I am grateful for the opportunity to have transformed from a cheater into a faithful individual.
The fact of the matter is…
If I hadn’t assessed my own issues I would of 100% cheated again
My past mistakes serve as a constant reminder of the importance of honesty, integrity, and respect in any relationship.
And while I can never erase the pain I caused, I am committed to spending every day proving that I am worthy of the trust and love that has been bestowed upon me by those who have chosen to love me.