avatarTarun Gupta

Summary

The article discusses the pitfalls of obsessively pursuing love, emphasizing the emotional risks and the potential for negative impacts on one's life and self-esteem.

Abstract

The author of the article reflects on the personal experience of chasing love, noting that such pursuit often stems from infatuation and can lead to significant emotional distress. The futility of the chase is highlighted, with the author pointing out that it can divert attention from other life areas, cause one to focus on non-existent flaws, and lead to a blurred line between realistic and unrealistic optimism. The article suggests that this behavior can result in a loss of self-esteem and potentially depression due to unfulfilled expectations.

Opinions

  • The author believes that chasing love is generally counterproductive and can cause more harm than good.
  • Persistent attempts to communicate with the object of one's affection are seen as ineffective and detrimental to one's focus on other aspects of life.
  • The article suggests that the pursuit of love can lead to the magnification of non-existent flaws, which in turn can lower self-esteem.
  • A distinction is made between realistic and unrealistic optimism, with the latter being linked to feelings of depression when desires remain unmet.

Chasing Love Is Destructive

Only good in the moment

Photo by PH romao on Unsplash

Chasing in love happens because of infatuation. It starts after meeting someone new, getting smitten, and only wanting to spend more time with them. This is a very tricky situation to navigate.

In the majority of the cases, the chase ends up being futile, leading to emotional hurt in the chaser. I have been a victim of this. But the last time it happened, it made me sit and ponder over the events in excruciating detail. It brought about certain conclusions and noteworthy points.

The realizations were:

  1. Constantly or forcefully trying to establish communication doesn’t work. It shifted my focus from other parts of my life.
  2. Non-existent flaws show up, leading to losing self-esteem.
  3. There is a thin line between realistic and unrealistic optimism. Unfulfillment can lead to depression.
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