Celebrating the Women I am Becoming
Day #33: 100 Happy Days
It is hard to single out a happy day to celebrate the most important women in our lives, mothers — the real creators, the quintessential gifts. Since it is a special day, I would like to share excerpts of the two pieces I have written on mothers. And, as a reflection that I am becoming my own mother(s). This is to join the bandwagon of all-good-ness under this happy days challenge! Nothing is easier than this share, truly.
Fragrance of My Mother
The most heavenly perfume I have ever smelt and the one I truly love
I wrote this article when I accidentally found my mother’s handkerchief in my dresser. The fragrance was out-of-the-world.
Her fragrance is in no way normal. Our entire house is filled with her aroma — bedsheets, clothes, dining table mats, and in fact, the air. It is so hard to define that perfume. It is floral, fresh, powdery, sweet, aromatic, fruity and soft. It has HUGE quantities of love, compassion, empathy, hard-work, safety and deep care. It also has solidarity, strength, support, leadership, laughter and friendship — all wrapped into one. I can smell it even as I write it. It’s crazy how good it is, that fragrance!
Maybe this was the first perfume I ever smelt. It made me feel safe, loved, heard, understood, cared for — truly, unconditionally and limitlessly, right from the second I was born. … And which is why, the next time I left, I carried this little handkerchief with me. I carry it with me wherever I go. I secretly think that it will pass on at least some of her secret superpowers to me. … It reminds me that I am loved and taken care of, that oh-so-heavenly fragrance.
Heartfelt Appreciation Post for My Mother in Law
A relationship I am truly grateful for
This was written in appreciation of all the love and care mother in law’s bring to the family. Wish this was acknowledged more. I wrote about just a few of the many things she does to share her love.
- She is my biggest cheerleader. Even if I achieve a tiny thing, it is celebrated with great joy and pride. She shares my achievements with everyone she knows. …
- She tells me when I am wrong and then helps me navigate through the situation. She gives ideas that I would not think of. …
- She always listens — without judgement — to three adults in the house, who are no less than toddlers when excited.
- She remembers everything about everyone’s work, schedules, likings, disliking, strengths, weaknesses, habits and joys. She works around it, ensuring everyone feels loved and taken care of. …
- She doesn’t hesitate to ask for help.
- She shops for me — dresses, mugs, bags and every other random thing.
- She has raised her son, my husband, very well. He has seen a strong independent woman in her and thus respects, celebrates and pushes me to do things I love to do.
- She tells me that my husband loves me. And tells him that I love him. Over and over. As a mother she can be possessive, but she isn’t.
- She stands up for me.
- She loves me, and she gets all this from her mother.
If these are the women I continue to become, I would consider it one of universe’s biggest blessings for me.
To all the mothers in the world, thank you for all your love.
PS: This article is a part of the 100 Happy Days series where I have committed to writing about simple things in life that bring me happiness and joy. Hoping that this experiment will help me cultivate a deeper relationship with myself. If you like it, please follow the list in the link above. Deeply appreciated!