Relationships

Caring For Your Own Garden

Guest prompt: “In life eventually we learn to plant our own gardens instead of waiting for others to bring us flowers. How are you preparing and taking care of your own garden?” by Vicky Prokopi

Quoting Ted Mosby from “How I Met Your Mother”,

“(…) I had a plan, okay? Wife, house, kids. As it turns out, the Universe it’s being kind of a *** about the whole wife and kids part. So, what’s the one thing I can control? The house. I bought it. (…)”

He took care of his own garden, of what he could control, and left what he cannot in the hands of the Universe.

I may be wrong, but in my point of view, this is what we should do:

Controlling what we can control in our life, and letting go of what cannot be controlled.

I can’t tell you when the woman of my dreams will show up, but I can quote Alanis Morrisette:

“It’s meeting the man of my dreams And then meeting his beautiful wife”

As far as I know, the woman of your dreams, or man (in the case of women (or men)), may already be married, looking for the time to end everything with her current partner and finally find you.

Therefore, live, control what you can, and leave what you cannot control, in the hands of the Universe.

To me, one of the most brilliant people who have passed through this planet, Richard Feynman, met his sweetheart and stayed with her until she left. I don’t know how life works, and probably never will, I just have a few thoughts that our goal is to spread love on this planet. I can’t be sure, but I believe Feynman gave himself completely to Darlene, and probably Darlene had left as soon as she realized what love was, and what it was like to be loved by someone. And then it was Feynman’s turn to spread the love for Gweneth.

Attention, spreading love is not picking someone up in a bar, day in and day out.

Sometimes (and I mean most of the time) a deep conversation is better than the 30 seconds that the poor guy you disenchanted in the bar held on, but you’ll understand what I’m talking about later.

Okay, sex is awesome, but a deep conversation first, and then sex is a Eureka moment, kinda like when Einstein found E=mc2 (I think).

Thank you for Diana C. and Vicky Prokopi, I’ve been waiting to write about this for a while, and thankfully I did.