Can Women Keep up With the Burgeoning Anal Sex Trend?
Men have fantasies, women are usually eager to fulfill them, but where do we draw the line?
A couple of days ago, I came across an erotic piece about anal sex. Two things drew me in: the author being male, which meant I got to read it from a male perspective, and the mouth-watering image displayed. You can’t blame me! Perfect glutes are a magnet to the eye. It’s no wonder when we see those melons, men and women alike can’t help but stare. I digress.
The author started off by setting the scene. A man returns from work, walks through the front door, and follows the aroma leading to the kitchen. He walks in to see his partner bent over in a short dress and a bright blue butt plug up her ass. Clearly, she wasn’t just preparing Dinner; she was getting her ass ready for him. Feeling like the luckiest guy in the world, He closed his eyes and whispered “god-damn”.
Feeling his presence, she began seductively swaying her butt while staring back at him. Like a siren, her seduction mesmerized him. He began walking towards her with his eyes locked on her ass. She gestured to him to remove the butt plug, and he obliged. He could feel his heart pound and penis throb in anticipation of what was to come.
Oh no, she didn't want his penis; her minds were set on something else.
She seductively reached out for some lube and squirted some onto his hand. He proceeded to add one finger, then two; she was screaming for more, and soon, he had his whole fist in her. He began fisting her to an orgasm. Her climax was so powerful it pushed his fist out of her ass.
He was surprised he could see her insides but, at the same time, turned on by how far her ass could stretch. The two perfect gluts that were once close were now worlds apart. He thought this was it, but they were just getting started.
She turned around and seductively poured lube on his arm; he went in and put his whole arm in. She was ecstatic. He thought she couldn’t stretch it any further. She turned around and poured lube on his foot. He then proceeded to insert his foot into her excessively gaped asshole. Soon after, he wondered whether his whole leg could be next in line. I couldn’t read further. It was too dehumanizing.
Yet again, I was curious to know what the readers thought, so I scrolled to the comment section. To my surprise, it was filled with horny men who were super turned on. Ready to literally tear that ass up, if not in their dreams, then in reality.
Some wished and wondered how they would get their wives and girlfriends to try this extreme sport. While others went on to name a list of things they’d put in women's asses if given the chance… books, tools, five dildos, the list was wild. My mind was going crazy! I couldn't comprehend how these men were so out of touch with reality that they thought women had no perception of pain.
Perhaps this is all fantasy, I thought to myself. After all, everyone has a right to their dark, twisted fantasies. It’s a healthy way to exercise imagination. But the more comments I read, the harder I clenched my butt cheeks. It became very clear that the target audience was men, but not just any men, men who enjoyed pushing the female body past its limits.
As a female with a plumb behind, I fear my asshole may fall prey to the whims of men’s deluded fantasies.
Women’s Physical and Emotional Experiences During Anal Intercourse
Professor Grace L Reynolds from the University of California did a qualitative study on women’s physical and emotional experiences during and after anal sex. 47% of these women cited pain and discomfort as the main reason they hated anal sex. One african american recalled having anal and feeling her ass on fire, “It was so painful I thought my asshole was turned inside out,” she said. Another woman described her experience as follows:
My experience was like, as soon as this motherfucker got done fucking me in the ass, I had to go to the toilet. Then, when I took a shit, I wiped my ass there was blood on the fucking thing. So, yeah, that’s not a good thing to be fucked in the ass. It’s really not. For real, for real, my saying to this day is exit only. You know what I’m saying?Like it’s made for shit to come out not to go in.
Despite the pain, some women didn’t want to knock anal sex from their sex menu because men love it, and we’re all about impressing men in the bedroom. There was a caveat, which was that the women would be on top so as to control the depth of penetration.
Not every woman shared such sentiments. 31% of women in the case study claimed they loved anal, and not just fingers in the ass… the ultimate workout. They genuinely enjoy being stretched out and having their guts moved around. One woman said:
I do it for enjoyment.I wanted it. It was done to express our love for one another and I wanted to do more. I wanted it. I wanted to do anything I can. I wanted the ultimate workout and he gave it to me. (White, Group 4)
When asked whether they preferred anal sex or vaginal intercourse, every single woman in the focus groups expressed a preference for vaginal sex. Clearly, women find vaginal intercourse to be more enjoyable than anal intercourse.
What does that mean for men and women?
Many guys are into anal — I get it; glutes are appealing to the eye. I can only imagine the tightness the asshole provides. A good friend once remarked, “It’s the closest thing that mimics a clenched fist.” I understand the sensory and aesthetic appeal of it all; however, where it gets sadistic and worrisome is the growing fixation on extremely stretched-out anuses.
There’s a thin line between fantasy and reality. I hope men know that no living, breathing being can survive getting their anuses excessively stretched out, no matter how sexy they find it.
Ladies, stand in your truth and allow no one to shame you. If you’re having fun and getting off by pleasing your man anally, im grinning at you and if I were a fly I’d be in your bedroom clapping and cheering you on.
On the other hand, if you’re they type that feels sexy by maintaining a no anal sex boundary and having him respect that, kudos to you because the sexier you feel the better the sex, it’s still a win-win for everyone.
As long as pleasure is shared equally, orgasms are enjoyed, and everyone involved feels valued, you are playing your part in the sexual revolution.
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© Dona Mwiria, January 2024
