avatarFelipe Xavier

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Can we have quality time in this chaotic world?

Yes, if we want

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This text was written before the pandemic, so read it like you were dreaming of a world without the virus. Can you do that? I hope so.

Facebook, What’s App, Youtube, Twitter, Instagram, Netflix, Spotify … It’s such an immense flood of information that it seems impossible to shut our brains down. We are always in a hurry. In a cafeteria, you pay half attention to the conversation and half to the cell phone.

Is it so difficult to have quality time with people or can you make it a pleasant habit?

I recently saw a post on Facebook, despite hating those cheap self-help posts, but I found it interesting and ended up seeing a silver lining on it. It was something like a message saying that nowadays relations are superficial and a few more things.

The thing is, at the end of the post there was a request for commenting if you wanted to book a coffee or a bar to talk therefore have quality time with them.

How rare has this become? That moment when you sit down with someone to exchange ideas, tell stories, talk nonsense, anything. We need to create moments to relate to the people we live with.

Not only that. How many times have you been to a show with people watching it through their phones? There’s an incredible experience happening before your very eyes, but the choice is to see through that small screen to partially relive it in another time or even just to show people where you’ve been.

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One of the greatest problems of our century is depression. Loneliness and shallow relationships are some of the triggers of depression. Why is it that instead of meeting people in the real world and having quality time with them, we prefer to lock ourselves up in our homes and live online relationships? Dressed in our social masks, we are super people online when in real life we ​​are insecure, selfish, and sad.

It was some time ago that I decided to relate more intimately to several people. When I’m with them, I really try to be with them. No distractions or any other things that take the attention away from the connections and what is going on in the moments when we are together.

When I stop to read a book, I really focus on my reading. I forget about the cell phone and focus on the words before my eyes through that reading experience. All of this is quality time, whether alone or with other people.

Stop this multitasking buls*t, we are not meant to be that way. We try to be because of the job market and the insane amount of information we have.

To close the text I would like to indicate an episode of the fifth season of the Black Mirror series. The episode is called Smithereens and it deals a little with our obsession with social networks, and how it can lead to self-destruction.

How about you? How do you feel about the excess of information and the fragility of the superficial relationships of our times? Leave your opinion and let’s talk.

Self Improvement
Relationships
Social Media
Quality Of Life
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