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all go away, you’re reintroduced back into normal boring life, and this is when love beings to set in. So, what is love?</p><p id="4711"><b>It is:</b></p><ul><li>attachment</li><li>trust</li><li>interdependence</li><li>loyalty</li><li>consistency</li><li>partnership</li><li>dependability</li><li>empathy</li><li>caring</li><li>bond…etc etc.</li></ul><p id="d326">Being love is a subjective experience that is influenced by more than just biology — it stands to reason that each person has to define what love is to them and that definition is their subjective measure. This is an individualized pattern of behavior that gets entrenched as part of a person’s identity and to a degree their sense of self becomes a joint identity. This is what makes losing your mate so damn hard if you made them, your world.</p><p id="5e1a">It's the loss of your identity that causes you such emotional pain. That is why they say that a person needs to keep their own interests so that they are not over investing in the relation

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ship to prevent themselves from being devastated if something should happen. It’s a natural barrier that prevents you from being ‘all in’ on the relationship for your own protection.</p><p id="d1b5"><b>So, What Is Love?</b></p><p id="d366">Clearly love is a subjective individualized phenomenon so I’d suggest we look at that list above of what love is comprised of and take the DSMs approach. So, if you have 6 of 10 symptoms/characteristics of love then you can consider yourself to be in love.</p><p id="6595">This methodology of measurement is then applicable to psychopaths, Borderlines, Narcissists, Neurotypicals and Schizophrenics.</p><p id="aa5a">Look at that — we just found an effective method of determining if you are in love or not that is universally applicable regardless of if your neural receptor’s deficiency of bonding with oxytocin, object relations issues, or attachment trauma.</p><p id="659f">I’d say that was a good day’s work.</p><p id="3a4a">Thank you and goodnight.</p></article></body>

Can Someone with a Mental Illness Feel Love for Another Person?

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My opinion is that they absolutely can as love is a subjective measure. It's subjective because there is no way to actually take a love test and have it conclusively tell you that you are in love or that you love someone. It's a subjective experience and it is very much influenced by your history and your environment.

The one thing we know is that love is not infatuation. Infatuation is fun, it’s exhilarating and it’s short lived. Once the chemicals all go away, you’re reintroduced back into normal boring life, and this is when love beings to set in. So, what is love?

It is:

  • attachment
  • trust
  • interdependence
  • loyalty
  • consistency
  • partnership
  • dependability
  • empathy
  • caring
  • bond…etc etc.

Being love is a subjective experience that is influenced by more than just biology — it stands to reason that each person has to define what love is to them and that definition is their subjective measure. This is an individualized pattern of behavior that gets entrenched as part of a person’s identity and to a degree their sense of self becomes a joint identity. This is what makes losing your mate so damn hard if you made them, your world.

It's the loss of your identity that causes you such emotional pain. That is why they say that a person needs to keep their own interests so that they are not over investing in the relationship to prevent themselves from being devastated if something should happen. It’s a natural barrier that prevents you from being ‘all in’ on the relationship for your own protection.

So, What Is Love?

Clearly love is a subjective individualized phenomenon so I’d suggest we look at that list above of what love is comprised of and take the DSMs approach. So, if you have 6 of 10 symptoms/characteristics of love then you can consider yourself to be in love.

This methodology of measurement is then applicable to psychopaths, Borderlines, Narcissists, Neurotypicals and Schizophrenics.

Look at that — we just found an effective method of determining if you are in love or not that is universally applicable regardless of if your neural receptor’s deficiency of bonding with oxytocin, object relations issues, or attachment trauma.

I’d say that was a good day’s work.

Thank you and goodnight.

Relationships
Love
Mental Health
Borderline Personality
Narcissism
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