Can a person who has been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) fall in love with someone else, and if so, what would their feelings be towards that person?

Is it possible that someone with NPD falls in love with someone else? This is one of those rhetorical questions that doesn’t really have an answer, at least not one that will really satisfy you. Narcissists are like this broken shell with this soft goo on the inside. Where the shell is they are impenetrable. Nothing gets through that shell, it’ll bounce everything off of it from guilt and shame to fault and blame. They are immortal if you are attacking that shell.

But, where their shell grew in weak and has holes that expose the disgusting goo that is inside. That is where you risk seeing a conversion from the normal self absorbed dismissive ass into the blinding rage whirlwind of hate and disgust. They go from bad to worse in less than a second. That goo is what complicates everything.

If they had just the bionic shell like a psychopath has then they’d be identical to the ASPD but, because their shell didn’t grow in properly they grew this toxic goo inside which is horrifically noxious and nasty. This goo is what causes them to lash out and be so behind your back sneaky and malignant. This goo is the reason why you’ll eventually be a shattered wreck of a being flailing about spraying your dysregulated emotions about like the blood of someone who’s main arteries were severed shooting red streams like spiderman’s webs from their wrist.

That goo covers their heart and their brain. It’s like a toxic acid eating away at those good parts and separating those good parts from the outside world. Everything must filter through the goo to get in or out and depending on how much of a narcissist they are, it will determine how difficult it is to get to those good parts.

Those good parts are indeed capable of love. If by some chance their goo is thin enough you will feel love from them and you will feel warmth. These are the moments that you will eventually be ravishingly starving for by the end of the relationship. The goo will be building in thickness and resiliency as the relationship goes on and their attitude will become more toxic and more disgusting with every passing day. As they lose respect for you that goo thickens up because of your treachery for not remaining as that false fantasized version of you that they had created.

That said, that part of them that is under that goo is underdeveloped but it is true. It does love you and it will show you that in spurts until the end. It will get rarer and rarer as the toxic goo slathers the heart and brain with toxic green acid. Eventually there is only one thing that will water down that goo and make it thin enough that they can feel love inside and project it outside. The only thing that will work is to get rid of that thing that keeps making the goo grow more powerful. You.

There is a transition from love to hate that occurs as the Goo thickens up and the love part becomes unreachable. You will no longer recognize your narcissist. You’ll be dealing with toxic goo that wants to smother you in its pain.