Can a Narcissist Turn You Into a Narcissist?

Stay Confident

After having gone through persistent narcissistic abuse over the years, could it turn you too into a narcissist?

Now imagine having faced gaslighting, manipulation, shaming, accusations, & whatnot for years together, what would be your strategy to cope with the abuse?

After a certain amount of time, a narcissist might trick you into believing that you are the narcissist in the relationship. They’d say this over and over again for years until eventually, you start questioning yourself if he/she is right about you.

If you are in a phase where you’re questioning yourself, relax! You’re not a narcissist. I’ve got two reasons to emphasize why.

Reason One. Because Narcissism is a Personality disorder and it takes multiple factors to develop all those factors should be in action since childhood. Like overvaluation by parents, parental abuse, trauma, genes, and many such factors.

You’re not likely to develop narcissism in your adulthood unless you were exposed to a few or more of the above factors in your childhood. Personality formation is a process. It is formed entirely during the mid or late 20s but the process begins right from the age of 1.

Reason two. The very fact that you are questioning yourself if you’re wrong proves that you aren’t narcissistic. Self-blame is not a narcissist’s game, they’d rather blame others for what’s wrong around them.

Since you’re blaming or at least questioning yourself for all the mess that’s happening in your relationship, it shows you have empathy. Cheers! We all know narcissists aren’t capable of empathy.

Your self-blame is a result of constant manipulation by the narcissist.

The narcissist doesn’t need to directly blame you that you’re a narcissist sometimes it’s possible that they play the victim card over & over and you start thinking if you’re an abuser.

You’re confused if you’re the victim or the abuser. If you haven’t done anything wrong but still these thoughts/questions often creep into your mind, then it’s certainly because of their manipulation.

Stay Confident

Don’t let their manipulation get to you. As long as you have not wronged them there’s no need to question your conscience.

If you think their behavior is narcissistic, confirm it, and if they are, that’s it you don’t have to question yourself. Yes, you be good but don’t go into self-doubt or self-blame.

Motivate them to take therapy. Therapy is the best way to overcome narcissism. However, I’ll shortly post an article with ways to overcome narcissism.

That’s all for this piece. Wish you all the health & wealth.

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