Building A Writing Habit That Works
Experiment, play and be open
This is part of Notes for Myself Series: Day #18
A few weeks ago, I found myself hitting a low point in my life and going back to the monkey mind that was taking over me. I have always kept a journal but ever since I got caught up with life changes, I only reached out to my journal when I’m at a breaking point. I know it shouldn’t be like that, it should be used for maintenance, not only writing in SOS situations.
I was determined to get back into my daily journaling practice and keep up a new writing habit, aiming to publish daily on Medium. Previously, I even came up with a whole strategy, content plan and all that professionalism to hopefully drive myself to write more on Medium. But it didn’t work. It took me a while to understand that writing for me always came from a point of writing to express, writing for myself, and self-discovery and growth was the driving factor. As much as I can strategise it, it didn’t feel like me and it didn’t flow from my heart.
So I decided to show up differently. Just for 30 days, to show up here on Medium, no matter how little or how much I write, as long as I write and publish daily, I would have achieved already.
It became a place to get to know myself, hear myself, creating a sacred space between me and the pages. A place to block out all the external noises. I found myself again, writing freely without planning, thinking, just in the flow and keeping an openness to whatever that comes out. It felt so liberating, I didn’t have to wait for a publication to approve my writing, I didn’t need to make sure my grammar etc. was perfect, I simply just write.
That momentum of writing daily even became addictive and in the initial week, I woke up everyday looking forward to having this space for myself. I didn’t care if people read it, if they did that was a bonus, but if they didn’t I’m happy just to show up for myself. I have to say that this practice is so far working for me, proving to myself that indeed I can commit to things, commit to writing, in a freeing way that works for me.
There’s a million things that you can read on people’s writing habits, writing routine, hacks etc. but the best practices come from your own discovery, your own voice and it’s your own journey. Upon reflection, it was the ‘experiment’ approach and openness that allowed me to feel motivated and creative everyday. It helped me to drop my frustration and eagerness to make it work. I became less focused on the outcome but more in tune with the process, finding joy in the creative expression.
I returned to a sense of playfulness and being myself, not writing for anyone else. It also became a good place to affirm my goals and attitudes that I want to carry. I would encourage all of you to give it a go, experiment, be open and see what comes up for you that you want to continue building. Like with everything, when it gets hard, remember why you fell in love with it in the first place.
