Buddha’s Wisdom: 5 Things You Must Realize if You’re Feeling Lost or Unclear

There is no path to learning. Learning is the path.

Buddha taught us the difference between love and like. He said:

“When you like a flower, you pluck it. But when you love flowers, you water them daily.”

Now, love is not limited to others. We must always love and care for ourselves because our hearts and soul are the only places we’ll ever stay forever.

In other words, your “mind, body, soul” is your permanent home, as per Buddha.

Treat yourself like a loving parent when you make mistakes, a supportive friend when you need help, and a kind entertainer or an amuser when you feel low.

Sure. 6.8 million U.S. adults feel down or hurt — you’re not alone. But you have to learn how to get back on track fast enough. Because time is money. It’s okay to reflect and feel a little sad for some time, but it’s not okay to keep doing that.

For that reason, below are five things by Buddha you must realize if you’re feeling lost or hurt.

1. Early learner

Don’t close your eyes. Analyze what’s happening.

We often create our interpretations. That doesn’t change how a person or a situation is. Buddha speaks highly of a person who lives in the present and learns from mistakes.

“Better it is to live one day seeing the rise and fall of things than to live a hundred years without ever seeing the rise and fall of things.”

Don’t turn a blind eye to the teachings.

What you don’t learn will come back to haunt you. Buddha says that first of all, accept what happened.

Learn the lessons life throws at you. Because life is like reading a book, and if you never saved or learned those teachings, there’s no point in reading the book in the first place.

At one point, Buddha accepted his fate living in the castle. Buddha never lost hope and kept molding himself for the worldly life lessons he didn’t know until age 35.

2. Everything takes time

Ever tried to fill up the water fast?

If you don’t turn off the faucet on time, the water might splash on your face. Not that but:

• Water gets wasted
• Devices might get damaged (e.g., mobile phones)
• Your clothes could get dirty

So what’s the solution? Pause.

Everything takes time. As Buddha said:

“Drop by drop is the water pot filled. Likewise, the wise man, gathering it little by little, fills himself with good.”

During my exams, my mom used to tell me: you cannot learn everything in one day. Why? Because when you learn things, sleeping, entertaining, and breathing all contribute to your learning factors.

Hence, the main factor of learning is to sleep on it. Patience is a critical factor in successful learning.

Patience yields the fruit of learning, whereas rushing through work does not.

3. Comparison does nothing

We look at other people as who we are.

• If we face depression, it is easier to find a depressed person
• If you’re a drugs person, it’s easier to identify someone in the same boat.

What sets it apart is to find faults and mistakes in someone and do nothing about it.

Why? Because we’re not pure either. Life has its way of making you pay for things you say to hurt someone. Never do that. As Buddha said:

“I will not look at another’s bowl intent on finding fault: a training to be observed.”

Look at you: are you perfect?

If you’re not perfect, there’s no point in finding faults in someone else. Instead, contribute by teaching, explaining, and guiding — it’s the best way to satisfy your ego.

4. No one is safe

If they talk behind your back, it’s their job.

My mother always believed: There can never be only businessmen/women. The world needs all sorts of people: employees, laborers, and veterans. Therefore, the world also needs backbiters to balance with good people.

She is right.

The world is balanced. If you’re a good person doesn’t mean whomever you will meet will be in the same boat.

As Buddha said:

“They blame those who remain silent; they blame those who speak much; they blame those who speak in moderation. No one in the world is not blamed.”

Whatever you are, you’ll always be blamed.

It’s perfectly okay. Others may judge you, but it’s up to your mind to interpret and respond to their judgment.

Take the good comments and suggestions, and never be bothered by what anyone has to say. Buddha was not an ideal citizen growing up, but had he listened to the opposing views, he would have never reached enlightenment.

5. You have the potential to awake

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If you’re reading this article, I'll give you 3 points. Do you know why? Because learning is the no.1 aspect/quality of being awakened.

As Buddha said:

“Whatever precious jewel there is in the heavenly worlds, there is nothing comparable to one who is Awakened.”

No happiness in this world is anywhere compared to the happiness of enlightenment.

There’s beauty, a satisfaction when people deliberately say less. There’s beauty when people guide instead of swallowing all the information. That beauty is not described — it’s felt. People choose to be kind. Buddha had everything to make himself a rich emperor, but he wanted something different from his life.

You realize what you’re meant for when you search your deep layer.

Final thoughts:

Buddha alone made an impression on people that rich emperors failed to do.

Mostly, we know rich emperors by reading them at school, vs. we read Buddha because our hearts want it too.

And that’s the difference between what you wanted to be VS. what this world taught you.

Do you want to be

• Wicked?
• Liar?
• Untruthful

That’s not you! I am sure.

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