Break Up with Yourself
You’re in a toxic relationship.
You are willing to do anything but give up on your programming. No matter what that costs you: your freedom, happiness, the love of your life, or even life itself. You’d rather die than give up on your old self, right?
There is a lot that you demand from yourself. For some, it’s to always be cheerful, no matter HOW you feel, or always with a poker face on, no matter IF you feel.
Or always strong even when you are crumbling apart inside. Or always helpful, even when you can hardly help yourself.
It’s something we learn and then hopefully unlearn because it’s slowly killing us. Not being our true selves is death.
If you don’t like yourself, why don’t you guys break up?
Break up with your old self if the relationship is causing you pain. No, don’t try to fix it anymore, just let it go.
I give the worst relationship advice — I always tell people to break up. Most of the time I’m right, though. People should break up. I don’t believe in lifelong relationships with people who are not suited for us.
If you want to fix it, go ahead and fix it, don’t just stay there and complain about you two not getting along. Love them or leave them. Don’t try to change them. They will change if it’s necessary for them.
And this is also true for the relationship with yourself. Work on your own growth. Plant flowers in your own garden.
Only with the seeds of those flowers that have reached maturity will you be able to plant somebody else’s garden, if they allow you to. And they also need to water those flowers themselves.
As egotistical as it might sound, stop helping people before you are able to help yourself. You need all the help you give to others. Don’t get up on your mighty high horse because you helped somebody.
You are not a good person. You are not a bad person, either. You are a person, just as worthy of love as the rest of us. Just as special. Just as common.
Let me break your pink bubble of positivity. I strongly believe that we are one. That makes you as important as the next piece of dust next to you. It also makes you as important as the Dalai Lama, Trump, or whoever else you fancy.
Not in need of a cynical pill today? I’m not being cynical. It’s the one thing that gave me the most hope, power, and love. It made me feel the most alive, happiest and loved in my entire life.
It translates into not needing to fill bigger shoes than I’m up for today. It also made me trust myself and my power to overcome almost anything. It took me down from my pedestal and I realized it’s so difficult to live up there. It’s a huge burden and I don’t want to carry it anymore. I enjoy being common, it’s such a relief.
Ever since I allowed myself to be an insignificant piece of dust, I was able to connect to the other pieces of dust around me.
And I could also choose the days when I want to feel special.
Give up on the burden of feeling special and unique all the time.
Only then will you find out that you truly are special and not in that forced fake millennial kind of way. You will feel this with the power of 1000 suns.
You will no longer carry the weight of the generations behind you. You will no longer be responsible for making others happy. You will no longer need to do/ make/ achieve/ strive/ perfect/ save/ manipulate/ lie/ fake.
You’ll be happy in your underwear, looking out the window on a cloudy day.
You will find out that all you need to do… is BE.
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