Break The Habit of Stalking Your Ex on Social Media

How you can do it faster?

Some single people are emotional about their ex. Yet they cannot fight the urge to view the profiles of their ex-partner. Of course, you are curious.

Are they out and about at parties and sharing it on Instagram stories? Have they already moved on? Did they remove all digital evidence of your relationship? Is karma coming at them fast or slow after they broke your heart? Has their posting style changed? Is their new beau more or less attractive than you?

It is like crying to a sad song. Then you hit rewind to stay at your emotional breaking point so you can keep tearing up.

It is natural to open Instagram. Only to look at what your ex-partner is up to when single. But it is also a breakable habit.

If you look at your ex’s profile often, they get listed in your searches. Their name is there every time to press the search bar. That is not great. It makes it super easy for those feeling to come flooding back.

The next time, you press the search bar. You can take a deep breath. Let the memories flood your mind as you stare at the person’s name. Take another deep breath. Then you start your first attempt at digital separation. You press the “x” beside their listing.

It may not feel like much yet.

But the next time you hope to check in on your ex, you will need to type in their name. Here is how you apply the approach to make it work. When you type their name, go slow. You might press the first letter, and their name appears again. Look past it to the other available profiles.

Click on one of these other profiles to find out about someone new. Done browsing that profile? View the other pages further down the suggested list. Get interested in another stranger’s life. I know it sounds ridiculous. But it can help. I decided on this strategy. How? Because I have a problem which I now use to my advantage. I forget my original plan when I entertain distractions. It is like walking into a room and forgetting why you are there.

By viewing all those other profiles, you distract yourself. You are likely to forget why you came to Instagram. You may still end up on my ex’s page. But, hey. It was not your first action when you opened the app. Plus, you learn about new people.

The more you take this approach. The more you might wait to view you ex’s page. You allow yourself to get a dopamine hit elsewhere. With time, it makes your ex’s social media activities less appealing.

I know you might think, why not block the person and be over it? But it is difficult for some people. Yeah. You could still check your ex’s profile via your friend’s phone. Dopamine is a powerful organic brain chemical. Thus, I try to lower the appeal of actions first to speed up moving on. It might work for you as well.

Have you tried anything like this before?

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