Black Women, We Need to Stop Coddling Black Men

Our safety is at risk

Tina Knowles (Beyoncé’s mother), produced a documentary called “Profiled: The Black Man” which is supposed to center on the struggles black men have faced throughout history and debunk the stereotypes they have faced.

Most black women have huge problems with this and so do I.

Here’s what almost everyone said in the comments section for the trailer:

“Black women are dying at the highest rates because of black-on-black violence from black men.”

AMEN. I almost did a praise dance for that.

Almost everyone is ripping that trailer apart, particularly black women and I couldn’t be more proud.

But of course, there were some outliers.

Some black women said that we shouldn’t use “white supremacist rhetoric” to teach black men a lesson. We shouldn’t say that they’re fulfilling their own stereotypes.

We should use “kinder” language.

Ugh. Not again.

Here’s the thing.

We don’t need yet another documentary on violence towards black men. How many movies and documentaries center around violence and the racial profiling of black men?

Heck, black men are the faces of police brutality. The black women who have died barely get any mention, let alone an inkling of justice.

So we damn sure didn’t need this.

Also, I get a little sad when I see other black women caping for black men. I won’t go on the level of calling them “mammies” because lord knows I’ve been there too.

But we need to stop acting like black men’s feelings and their oppression are more important than black women's death.

WE ARE DYING.

And we’re dying at huge numbers mostly because of black-on-black violence from black men.

At least four black women are murdered per day in America. Black women also share a very high risk of being murdered or raped during their lifetimes.

Where does most of this violence come from? Like any other race, most of the violence happens within — by black men.

What did Malcolm X say?

“The most disrespected person in America is the black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman.”

I understand why some black women feel that we should have conversations with black men rather than “demonizing” them, but we’ve tried that for YEARS at this point.

Black men clearly don’t care or they would’ve changed years ago.

I’m done having conversations.

Those are conversations that black men must have with themselves. Black women can’t get involved anymore because our safety is at risk.

I’m not saying that ALL black men are predators, but the golden boys out there sure as hell aren’t doing enough work to hold other men accountable.

All it takes is a simple talk with your boys.

Until black women begin to see legitimate changes, black men aren’t worth our energy.

We can’t fight for everyone while being treated like shit a million times.

I’m tired.

In conclusion, black men don’t need more sympathy documentaries about being profiled. How about a documentary that addresses black-on-black violence done to black women?

Maybe that will spread some change.

Until then, deuces.

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