Black Pro Athletes Prefer White Women Because They Let Them Cheat in Peace?

The World, According to Charleston White…

I'm not going to lie; I literally hate to discuss interracial dating as it pertains to Black men and White women.

The societal stereotype that asserts all Black women are jealous of White women who date Black men has been enough to cause me to remain mostly silent on the topic.

Nevertheless, occasionally, I see something so interesting that I can't help but chime in.

Enter Charleston White…

If you're not yet familiar with the horrible personality that is Charleston White, well, lucky you! Honestly, I don't want to promote his ridiculous rhetoric any more than I have to. Suffice it to say, I'm not a fan.

Either way, he said something recently that struck a chord with me, and the reason is that it's a thought that I've entertained in the past many times: the notion that certain Black men choose to date White women because they believe they're pushovers. He said this while also insinuating that Black women are basically penis-obsessed idiots incapable of playing the role wealthy men require.

But I don't want to put words in his already tainted mouth; listen to him with your own ears below:

On the one hand, he's complimenting White women by asserting that they are often married to wealthy Black men because they have the mental capacity to help them build their empires.

On the other hand, he's also insulting them by insinuating that they allow their men to cheat and basically do whatever they want, as long as they do their part in terms of taking care of them and the household.

At the same time, of course, he's also attacking Black women by spreading the myth that we're too emotional or even delusional to deal with wealthy men. And lastly, if they care, this is also a slight towards successful athletes, as he is undoubtedly insinuating that none of them are capable of being faithful. He also asserts they are bereft of being truthful and creating genuinely meaningful relationships with their partners.

And now that I've aired my grievances, let's unpack this.

About White Women

If you recall, I spoke extensively about always having friends of all races. This isn't an "all lives matter" moment; instead, I just said that to say that I've known plenty of White women on a personal level, so I'm not one to feed into stereotypes.

Read more about my experiences with race and friendship here:

Now, is it true that some White women fit this description? Of course! But it's also true that women of every race fit this persona as well. But, on the whole, are all White women docile, passive pushovers who let their men do whatever they want while being the best little soldiers and keeping the house together? Hell no! I mean, are you serious?!

If you're tapped into celebrity news, White women who are married or involved with wealthy men get divorced all the time, and the splits are often far from amicable. So, I mean, I guess it's OK if men want to believe this, but I'd be remiss if I didn't point out that it's often not the case.

Let's take an extreme example: Tiger Woods, y'all! We all heard about the golf clubs that swung around the world when his cheating scandal emerged. Granted, no one blamed her, but either way, they were quickly divorced, and Tiger's cheapskate a** was back on the market.

Side note: the main thing that bugged me about Tiger's scandal, particularly, was that he was so cheap! OMG! With all his money, you would think he'd realize that spending a little money on the mostly working-class women he was cheating with might have prevented them from spilling the beans so easily. I mean, to really tell all the women they were the "only other women" while claiming to be in love with each of them was always a recipe for disaster as far as his marriage was concerned. I’m a firm believer in the fact that it’s not what you do but how you do it. This was a real scumbag way to go about things, even as far as wealthy serial cheaters are concerned.

Either way, Elin certainly didn't turn a blind eye and ignore his indiscretions. She was actually trying to blacken his…

About Black Women

On the other hand, are all Black women overly emotional lunatics who obsess over what their partners are doing with their genitals at all times? Hell no! I mean, Black women are just as capable of turning a blind eye as any other race, and if we're totally honest, sometimes Black women put up with more to avoid the stigma of being labeled a single mom in the Black community; a community that is far less forgiving and often shuns women for the relationship/parenting mistakes of men.

Let's take an extreme example: Wendy Williams. She was actually the breadwinner in her family. In her movie/documentary, it was revealed that her ex-husband, Kevin Hunter, was essentially cheating on her the entire relationship. However, she simply turned a blind eye out of fear of being a single mother.

Ultimately, she could no longer ignore his infidelity when he had a child outside of their marriage and ended the marriage. Unfortunately, her entire empire came crumbling down during the separation, and she now seems to be suffering from serious mental/physical health issues.

I said that to say there are passive and powerful women on both sides; many are both, depending on the circumstances. Period.

No Woman Wants to be Cheated on

Now, before I get into this, I want to acknowledge the exceptions. First of all, swingers, polygamous and polyamorous couples, actually expect their partners to be with other people. But let's be clear: it's not cheating if the other partner is well aware of the situation and OK with it.

And yes, some women really don't care if their men cheat as long as they take care of home. I have no judgment on those women, but I can say that this is usually because the marriage is more of a business move than anything.

I mean, if you're primarily concerned with money and security above all else, it's far easier to stay married when you know your partner is cheating. This is something that the rest of us can't judge from the outside looking in.

Nevertheless, for the rest of us, those who want to be in monogamous relationships with men who are dedicated to us, cheating is unacceptable. And yes, even though we take this stance, there are times when we may forgive cheating men in favor of preserving our families and relationships.

However, even then, this doesn't mean there will be no consequences. Some women ruin clothes and possessions; some choose to cheat in return; some decide to ruin their reputation; some choose to passively aggressively do underhanded things like refusing sex, cooking, cleaning, etc.; some plan for months and leave the relationship like a thief in the night; and others still get even more creative about showcasing their pain to send the message that cheating isn't OK.

No matter how we choose to handle it, the bottom line is that no woman is searching for a man who they think will cheat on them. Spreading rhetoric that it's OK to cheat on certain women because they are somehow genetically predisposed to dealing with betrayal is dangerous rhetoric for us all.

Let's not forget the Wealthy Men

First of all, Charleston White is not making these statements in a vacuum. Women have to realize that comments like this are being made in public because of conversations being had in private. So, do some Black men genuinely believe that White women are weak and Black women are penis-crazed maniacs? Yes. Yes, they do.

So, no matter who you choose to date or why, I need women to realize that some men want or don't want us for all the wrong reasons. And while it's impossible to change how they think, we can certainly change ourselves.

If you've been reading my posts, you know that I've also spoken about not necessarily gravitating towards the "good guys." If not, read about it below:

To sum it up, I don't believe there's such a thing as a squeaky clean, perfect man. However, there are men out here that don't cheat. But since most of them aren't very vocal about being faithful, they essentially allow the Charleston Whites of the world to speak for them.

Therefore, these men may be with women viewing these videos and taking them to heart, which could erode the trust in the relationship and, ultimately, cause a rift in couples that otherwise may not have been there. The sad fact is that none of us ever knows whether our partners are cheating on us.

There will always be times when they are not around, which happens more often than not in the case of well-to-do men. So, yes, plenty of people choose their partners for the wrong reasons. However, allowing this rhetoric to be normalized is where we all fall short.

More men, especially the faithful, well-intentioned ones, need to start calling out men like Charleston White. Silence is consent, so if men don't agree with his rhetoric, they need to start addressing it rather than silently disagreeing.

Lastly, it's a fine time for women to start being more vocal about our expectations in relationships in general. Yes, I know most of us have been bullied into not standing up for ourselves and each other, but many of us are guilty of silently contributing to these stereotypes on both sides of the spectrum.

At the end of the day, men like Charleston White shouldn't be speaking for any of us. We all have our own voices and should use them to create genuine life experiences rather than quietly submitting to misogynistic mass manipulation.

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