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“Best Friends Don’t Work for Each Other”
Tea quote. Friends, who are good friends, have respect for each other.
When I think about having friends, I think about how much fun I will have when I meet friends and what I will do together with my friend to make memories. I love to make memories with my dearest friends. I feel in ease with them.
Questions to ask yourself. Do you have friends that are very close to your heart? Do you know your friends deeply? Do you know what they love to eat when going out? What makes them very sad and happy? What is their favorite color? Do you have fun together when you’re seeing each other? Do you talk to each other about different topics that matter the both of you? When you see and talk to each other, you know and you feel that everything is good?
These are questions I ask sometimes when I meet new people or people I have known for a while.
Everything is in ease because you have to be in comfort with your friends to have the best time of your life with them. When you are at ease with your friends, you feel free too, and you feel the best version of yourself when you are around them.
Recently, I haven’t seen my friend for a long time. The moment I saw her, I knew it all was fine. All were at ease between the two of us. We had a lot of fun and we caught up a lot.
Not judging each other and being there for one another in their difficult times. It is just to talk to each other. Most of the time it is also to release your pain (or their pain) and be there for your best friend in their difficult times.
When I meet with my friends, we listen to each other. Also, we are calling each other out for decisions, and asking for clarification when we don’t understand each other, but we don’t judge each other. You don’t call each other out without saying why. You always clarify each other.
(Best) friends don’t judge each other for their mistakes. They call each other out, but they don’t judge each other for their mistakes.
Help each other (in difficult times). I have another friend, and when I see her, I just know everything is fine. It is just a feeling in my gut. We talk to each other when we see each other. It just feels right. We don’t force our friendship. We don’t see each other that often, but when I see her, there is no pressure in keeping the conversations going. It is always fun being around her.
I have the same feeling with two other friends. All with different characters, but they fit the way I live.
When I am in a difficult time, my friend is there for me. She listens to my stories and comforts me with the words I need to hear, or she just tell me what I can do better.
Best friends don’t work for each other. You are not each other’s slaves. When you have a friend who always asks for things you have to do, but you don’t get anything back of your requests, then it is not a good friend. He or she is using you for his or her own benefits. I felt I had those in high school. They asked me to do their homework, but I never got anything back when I asked to. You don’t say something in your own benefit to your friend. You don’t do things for your own benefit.
Best friends don’t work for each other when they pick up a coffee for you when you pass their favorite coffee shop. But you don’t let them do other things for you when it’s a one-sided friendship.
I want to answer the questions I talked about earlier.
Do you have friends that are very close to your heart? I bet you have friends very close to your heart, whom you talk to every day, and you call now and then to talk about anything that matters to you and your friend! I have a few friends I can talk to like that. You exactly know what is going on in their lives, or at least big parts of that. So, you are close friends. They are deeply in your heart. Your friend(s) are a big part of your life, and they are important to you.
Do you know your friends deeply? Having the best friends you ever can imagine, you know deeply your friends. You know what they love to do. You know their favorite color. You love the way they treat you as a human being. You also know what kind of character they have and you know exactly what they don’t like (or what they like) in a partner. They have told you because they trust you in being in their life. The best thing about having friends you know well is that you recognize their behavior in situations you both are in. You can help each other with that.
Do you know what they love to eat when going out? When speaking and seeing my friends I know, by now, what they love to eat, or what they love to drink when I go out. At least what kind of dishes or drinks they love to have. I think it is important to know what your friend loves, to surprise your friend now and then with their favorites when you’re on the road to bring with you.
What makes them very sad and happy? As best friends, you know what makes them happy or sad. You see it in their face when something is wrong or they have something happy to tell you. Their behavior changes then. They dare to tell you what had happened. They tell you why they loved the events or what makes them sad. When friends, or best friends, dare to tell these things to each other, your gut knows this is the right friendship. I have a few friends whom I tell what matters the most to me, and they dare to tell me their issues.
What is their favorite color? I think it is important also to know what color your friend loves. It makes it special for you and your friend. When you know their favorite color or the colors they love, you know you are in good hands, because they will be there for you no matter what. Your best friend knows little things about you. This means that your friend cares about you and your life. They want all the best for you.
Do you have fun together when you’re seeing each other? To me, it is important to have fun with friends when I meet them. It is not only talking about serious issues. You also may talk about your neighbor who accidentally put his dirty hands over his white shirt, when you both see that. These kinds of funny things you have both been through giving you a strong bond together.
Do you talk to each other about different topics that matter to the both of you? Talking about different topics with friends that matters because you know what you think about it and what bothers you. So, you can talk about it the next time. You also know what your friends think about the topics you talk about; their statements. When you talk about it, you know what the other one’s values are. These values are important for you to see if you both match each other’s lives.
When you see and talk to each other, you know and you feel that everything is good? Another important thing is friendship is when you feel and when you know that everything is good. Everything just feels good because your gut tells you so. You feel as if someone backs you up for something you have done. You know because of that feeling you’re able you be there for one another.
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