Before Managing Life
If you want to learn to manage life, first you have to learn to manage your nature. A few more tips.
Even the failure of risk-takers to step into a field where no one has yet set foot or few have dared to enter is viewed with respect.
Fear of failure keeps people away from success. A person who keeps failing at any one task should do some introspection. Instead of blaming luck, environment, circumstances or other persons, one should look in the mirror. A person who cannot see his faults is more likely to continue to fail.
There is a big difference between permanent failure and temporary defeat. If we recall the past years of life and the failures experienced during those years, it will seem that only because we bowed down and sat on our hands at the time of temporary defeat, that defeat turned into failure.
Even a top cricketer cannot hit a six in every ball and a century in every innings. Once you achieve success, people’s expectations of you become unreasonably manifold. You don’t have to crush your work under the weight of that expectation. Whether continuity is of consequence or not, continuity must be of work. There is a danger in insisting that the outcome must be consistent. Success will be known only if there is continuity of work.
Even after continuous work, if there is a failure, whether or not you get the joy of success, the satisfaction of working, and making all efforts to achieve success is bound to be achieved.
The voice of the soul contains the melody of our accumulated experiences so far. A resourceful decision is more correct. In our daily lives, when we have a feeling that something untoward is going to happen, whatever logic or intellect says, we have to do what we think.
No matter how genius a person is, he cannot do more than one thing at a time optimally. The word ‘best’ is important. When one task is taken in hand and all attention is used to complete it, the best result of that task arises. After the completion of that work, the possibility arises again when another work is taken up.
The same thing happens in the case of all the subsequent work, but while taking all the work in hand and playing the altering, if we hit the water-filled bowl of each work little by little with a stick, instead of creating music from it, the rhythm of life will be revealed.
Each person has to decide for himself what is the purpose of life. Don’t take help from others. How to decide? By asking three questions:
1. If my life continues like this, where will I be in ten years? Want the next ten years of life to be the same as the last decade?
2. Do you want to live your next life based on what you have got now or what you have got or move forward by tearing down the old and building the new?
3. What price am I willing to pay in life to get what I want from life? What do I have that I expect from life in return?
Nothing can be gained without merit, if found by mistake it does not last long. When you get something you want in life, don’t question how much I paid for it. Any price to be paid to get what you want in life is reasonable.
Many people who win in life have won not because of their merit, but because of the disqualification of others. The defeat of those who believe in no sacrifice is more respectable than the victory of those who win at any cost. There are certain feelings in man which he cannot express openly.
You can express anger, sadness, care, satisfaction, etc., but you cannot express jealousy. Direct expression of jealousy is not possible, so it often comes out subtly. We condemn only those whom we are too weak to challenge.
No one else is going to come to solve the problems others have created for you. You have to do that. Whether it is someone else’s fault or one’s own, life does not belong to others. The responsibility of advancing it, enriching it or bringing it out of trouble is also the responsibility of the one in whose name this life is written.
You have a right to be angry when someone’s behaviour seems inappropriate to you, but it is possible that you do not have sufficient information or facts at that moment about the reasons behind their behaviour. When you try to find out the reasons by getting angry, yelling, or arguing, the person is unable to give you enough information or explain the right context.
As much tenacity is needed in assuming as tenacity is used in doing. Leaving is not a sign of weakness.
By giving up after the end of the effort, one is sure of which direction is closed and after getting such confirmation one gets a view to look towards new directions.
When someone says something or you read, see or hear something, the mind reacts immediately. An immediate response is not necessarily always correct. People who say ‘I’ll tell you what comes to mind’ are making others regret it. They understand that if they had not said what came to their mind immediately, there would have been a chance to change their mind, a chance to have a second reaction.
The importance of second opinion is recognized in the field of medicine. Similarly, the importance of a second reaction in dealing with people should be explained.
The second reaction is the art of returning the arrow halfway after it has been released.