Be Well With Gratefulness

How to see the light in the world.

It is very hard for everyone to see the good side of the world, to be grateful for anything. And for a good reason, that is. How can you see the good with all the noise, with all the yelling and the bad looks? How, with people rushing and not caring? When is too hot or too cold? It is hard to be grateful when you see nothing to be grateful for.

So why try?

That is a good question🥸.

I believe that everybody wants to be happy. I suppose that is why there are soo many videos and blog posts and posts of all sorts about how to be happy.

People want to be happy.

You want to be happy.

But we don’t know where to start. We don’t know what to do, where to look 🧐 . So we block ourselves inside and we blame the world for being harsh, mean, and dark. Doing so we start training ourselves towards a bias. We see only the dark and it covers us, and we let it in. We do that because what else is there to do?

And we become alone, and we distance ourselves from friends and tell ourselves that there is nobody there to love us. And it hurts 😔 .

And it is hard to get out of there. It is hard and it is scary.

But you are strong 💪 . You are in control. And you want to get out of there. You want to see the light! That is why you are here, right?

So what is there to do?

The internet is filled with advice. Mine here is about turning that bias towards the good parts of life, seeing and being gratefull😇 . And doing it step by step. I go to the gym, and the gym thought me something very important, which is to take things easy, with small steps, and compare myself only with myself. Although that last part is extremely hard 😁.

With this in mind, I will tell you what I did to get out of the dark and see the light in the world.

What I am grateful for!

Every day, while drinking my coffee I would write down 10 things I was thankful 😇 about. The phrases sounded like this:

I am gratefull for having such nice kids, I feel loved, I feel loving.

Thank you for my wife, I feel lucky, I feel loved.

I am thankful for playing with my kids, I feel like a good father, I feel patient.

The words in the phrases were very important. I would say what I am grateful 😇 and thankful for, and then I would say how it makes me feel. This is important because I would attach feelings to the words, and this way they would sink in better. I wanted to write 10 of these every day for at least one month.

In the first days, it was easy somehow. I would just say the big things that people feel they should be grateful for. You know like being alive, being healthy, having what to eat, and stuff like that. 😆 After a few days, I ran out of those parts, and I wanted to not repeat myself. So I started to look around me, and at what happened in that day, or in the previous day. I ended up with stuff like these:

I am grateful for the song in the mall, it makes me feel energized.

Thank you for this coffee break, I feel relaxed.

I am thankful for walking into my friend Jon, I feel friendly, I feel interesting

I would be grateful and thankful for any small thing. I would be grateful for the way the sun ☀️ shines through some branches 🌳 . I would be grateful for the way the carpet feels beneath my feet. Or for the smell of fresh air in the morning.

At some point, I had to search a lot to find 10 things to feel grateful for. Especially after the second week when I did something else 😁.

Be grateful for the people around you.

After 2 weeks I added 3 more lists, one with what I am grateful for from my wife👩‍🦰 , 1 from my girl 👧 , and one from my boy 👦 .

I would write the lists while looking at a picture of them.

3 lists were a lot. There were some moments when I did not have time to write them and it was cumbersome to do, even annoying. I would not recommend doing that many. But one for the best friend, or for your family in general, is awesome. Being aware of the people who love you is essential.

Realise that you are not alone, realise that you have love in you live.

After about one month I started actively looking for nice stuff and imagining how I would write them down 😍.

The difference was astonishing! I would observe the sun, I would see the smiles on people’s faces, I would see BMWs turn signaling 😅.

It was awesome.

Last but not least …

Be consistent

It took me about a month to change the way I see the world and 1 week after I stopped to get back to the initial state. I started again and did it for about 6 months and that is when it stuck 🤩 .

I started over one year later because I felt that I fell again. It is the best way to bring light to your eyes and in the world.

So be consistent and persevere. Do it every day and you will feel way better 🤩.

I hope these words would give you hope. Would make you see that there is light in the dark. Make you see that there is somewhere to start from and that you can bring yourself up.

Be happy and be grateful 😇 🤗.

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