Be Friendly. It Doesn’t Cost A Thing And It Makes Your Life Better

Being unfriendly is neither fun nor does it help us in life. In the long run, luck always favors the one who isn’t an asshole.

“I’m just a friendly person; that runs in my family.”

Dolly Parton

When we look at the world, it sometimes seems as if you only have to be ruthless, unkind, and hard to succeed.

It seems as if the quiet and friendly people are pushed around by the egoists.

I immediately think of people like Donald Trump or Brazil’s President Jair Bolsonaro when I think of unfriendly people.

These two may be extreme examples, but they send people the signal that ruthlessness and selfishness lead to success.

Many people take such people as role models because they also have a longing for power and recognition. But those who think this way only admit their own fear of insignificance.

Do you think nobody notices you if you are kind and helpful? You’re wrong. As a friendly person, you may not get your name in the newspapers or on the television news, but you will be able to rely on the people in your inner circle.

Friendly people are sometimes taken advantage of, but most of the time, you pay them respect, and you’d instead help them than someone who always acts like an asshole.

Unfriendliness provokes resistance. People like Trump and Bolsonaro may have a lot of power, but above all, they have many enemies. Half the world wants the plague on them. Who wants to live like that? Not me.

Instead of a thousand enemies, I’d rather have a few good friends.

Friendliness makes the world a better place because a person treated kindly feels valued and is more willing to be friendly himself.

We reap what we sow, so we should be cautious of what we sow. Sow an insult, deceit, or ridicule, and you reap an enemy.

The more enemies you have, the more time and energy you will have to spend defending yourself against them.

If you hurt someone, they will do everything they can to get back at you. You don’t have to have physically hurt the other person — it’s enough if you’ve been unkind to them.

Anger always leads to more anger, but kindness still generates more kindness. Our brain has so-called mirror neurons. These cause us to imitate our counterpart. So the more unkind people walking around today, the more will be tomorrow.

Conversely, friendly people can also generate more friendly people through this mechanism.

It is up to each individual what kind of person will prevail in the long run. I bet nobody wants to live in a world full of aggressors, not even those who behave like that themselves.

It doesn’t take much to belong to those who make the world a better place. Smile friendly at the cashier in the supermarket, say thank you and hello and offer your seat to older people on the bus. It is straightforward.

Aggression and selfishness have never produced anything useful.

I would rather be part of the solution than part of the problem.

And what about you? I bet that goes for you too.

René Junge a published author writing on ILLUMINATION.

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