Bad Humor Is My Road To Happiness

All her friends are around the pub table drinking beer and having fun when she opens her mouth. She tells them a well-crafted joke and starts laughing her lungs out. Nobody else does. But she’s happy.

I always loved puns, word plays, and silly jokes. Some might even call my humor dad jokes even though I’m not a dad yet. I guess I am somewhat prepared for fatherhood.

As for myself, I often crack a good joke.

But most of the time my humor is kinda silly and not funny. And I don’t feel bad about it all, because I have a different purpose than to entertain others. I tell my jokes first and foremost for myself.

I entertain myself.

It’s probably a result of me being between four walls most of my young life because of social anxiety sourced from bullying. Apart from having my computer to entertain myself, I had my own humor. And I’ve built a special style just for myself.

Society expects us to have good humor if we try to be funny.

But nobody talks about bad humor. There’s a fine line between inappropriate and bad humor of course. I am talking about the latter when a joke isn’t funny but doesn’t hurt any feelings.

Why is it treated so badly?

I used to feel bad for my jokes not hitting the nail. They were so well crafted and full of spice in my head. Why does nobody else understand me?

You need to understand that there is no problem.

It isn’t society’s fault for not understanding the joke nor yours for not realizing it won’t be funny for them. We all vibe differently and something we find funny won’t always entertain others.

This is why you need to ask yourself why you use humor.

Do you wish to satisfy others' needs by making yourself likable or just have a good time? Even I, as someone who never seeks outside validation, want to satisfy others. It’s human nature.

But I always tap into my own sense of fun.

And it’s okay if at times nobody understands it. The first step is accepting that you won’t always be funny to others. The second step is knowing your own sense of humor and doing it for your own fun.

It’s liberating.

And next time when you crack a joke and nobody laughs, ask yourself whether you liked the humor or not. If you did then you made one person laugh.

You.

That’s all that matters. And that woman remembered to have fun even when others didn’t quite get the joke.

If you’ve enjoyed the story give it a clap or fifty! And what would happen if you have bad humor but no friends?