Ask Lewis: 7 Tips To Create Emotional Support

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with loved ones regularly. Ask how they are doing and ask other open-ended questions.</i></li><li><i>Ask how you can best support them. Don’t problem-solve, offer unsolicited advice, or assume you know what they need. Remember, everyone has a different way they prefer to receive support (love language).</i></li><li><i>Be thoughtful. Remember what is going on in their lives and provide well wishes and encouragement. By doing so, you demonstrate genuine care and concern.</i></li><li><i>Provide empathy, not judgment. Connect with your heart and relate on an emotional and feeling level. Reflect understanding of how they feel and normalize and validate their feelings.</i></li><li><i>Follow up. Circle back with them and repeat these steps. The closer and more important the relationship, the more frequently you should circle back.</i></li></ol><p id="5c72">©Lewis Harrison, all rights reserved.</p><p id="ee55">Other of my stories in a similar vein @LewisCoaches:</p><div id="d204" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/ask-lewis-zen-and-artificial-intelligence-2ac6ca447f68"> <div> <div> <h2>Ask Lewis: Zen And Artificial Intelligence</h2> <div><h3>The age of singularity</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*S8uWCGICi_jrAq8o2xfhPw.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="84b6" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/ask-lewis-tips-on-the-best-zen-meditation-609596555428"> <div> <div> <h2>Ask Lewis: Tips On The Best Zen Meditation</h2> <div><h3>A guide to the simplest, most basic, and easiest way to begin</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*S8uWCGICi_jrAq8o2xfhPw.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><h2 id="b577">Before you go…</h2><p id="42b0">I am Lewis Harrison, an award-winning author of over twenty books on personal growth and strategic thinking. For over a decade I was the producer and host of the show <i>“What’s Up”</i> on NPR-affiliated WIOX FM in New York.</p><p id="d202">Now, aside from writing on Medium, and connecting personally with my readers, I teach seminars and speak on personal development, and life strategies throughout the world.</p><h2 id="bda8">To learn more about my thread — Ask Lewis — please read this short piece below…</h2><div id="9708" class="link-block"> <a href="https://lewiscoaches.medium.com/about-ask-lewis-0080

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The art of collaboration

By Steve Weinberg

In the process of reaching out to others, you will soon find that those also seeking to create this type of community use similar words and terms. We discussed this in a previous talk on specialized language.

One of the core elements in creating an online monastery, a Wisdom Community, is the shifting in specific ways of using language and sharing in a common culture. Both language and culture are essential elements in any proactive community. This is because written language and culture consist of ways to do things that are constructed and perpetuated through social interactions especially online. As a child, you acquire language and basic cultural norms of society by interacting with peers and members of a cultural group. As an adult seeking to create a Wisdom Community, you will do the same.

There are many steps that you can take to create a Wisdom Community. It is usually best to begin with two other individuals and create a Social Networking Monastery of three. This is a Wisdom Triangle.

What can be better than individuals with a common proactive vision? Because of the push and pull of daily living, as well as the reactive and unaware world around us, it is easy to have breakdowns in maintaining consistency in your Practice. One of the core behaviors that humans are hard-wired to express is the desire to connect with others, to create community. The Wisdom Triangle is a powerful tool for creating productive, effective, and abundant environments.

An effective Wisdom Triangle can help you transcend the personal crises that arise in day-to-day living. Many people have very difficult lives even when committed to being more effective in every way. Humans by nature get some gratification from helping or serving others. A person’s efforts are indeed more or less insignificant unless he or she is linked with others, all striving to the same end. A core element of Essential Zen will be to create a community and serve that community with Emotional Support.

Giving and receiving support are two sides of the same coin. These seven tips from various Psychology Today articles show you how to give emotional support.

Keep your word. Maintain personal integrity and follow through with the promises of support you have made. This facilitates trust.

Be present. Look at loved ones in the eye and avoid multitasking while with them. Give them time and space to share what’s on their mind.

Check in with loved ones regularly. Ask how they are doing and ask other open-ended questions.

Ask how you can best support them. Don’t problem-solve, offer unsolicited advice, or assume you know what they need. Remember, everyone has a different way they prefer to receive support (love language).

Be thoughtful. Remember what is going on in their lives and provide well wishes and encouragement. By doing so, you demonstrate genuine care and concern.

Provide empathy, not judgment. Connect with your heart and relate on an emotional and feeling level. Reflect understanding of how they feel and normalize and validate their feelings.

Follow up. Circle back with them and repeat these steps. The closer and more important the relationship, the more frequently you should circle back.

Other of my stories in a similar vein @LewisCoaches:

Before you go…

I am Lewis Harrison, an award-winning author of over twenty books on personal growth and strategic thinking. For over a decade I was the producer and host of the show “What’s Up” on NPR-affiliated WIOX FM in New York.

Now, aside from writing on Medium, and connecting personally with my readers, I teach seminars and speak on personal development, and life strategies throughout the world.