As You Change This — You Change Your World

All with simple, practical ways

Do you want to feel you have more control? We can’t change the world — though it sure would be awesome if we could — wouldn’t it?! So what can we actually do to feel in control?

A friend shared that she feels like the world has gone mad and it’s maddening her. She is frustrated as she continues to feel out of control in these times. When will this craziness end?

Can you relate?

I wish I had more answers regarding our world — but I don’t — nobody does… As I have shared many times, the only thing we have control over is ourselves.

What we can change in this world is our attitude.

What is happening in the world is happening, we can’t change that. By changing our attitude, we can change what is happening in our own world. What’s happening in our daily lives and how we handle the people and circumstances in it through a NEW view.

Your mindset has everything to do with your happiness and your success. When you spend time consciously improving your attitude, you then improve the outcome of your day. This will also lead to greater accomplishments in the future.

Let’s look at some simple, practical ways to adjust your attitude and bring in more control:

Learn from your mental chatter — Be mindful, starting now, on how you talk to yourself. We live with constant mental chatter and many of us are not paying attention to what is actually being ‘said’.

Stop and take notes — I know, sounds silly right? Maybe you feel you don’t have the time. Make some time and jot down your thoughts.

As you spend time listening to what your thoughts are saying, you’ll be amazed. We might say one thing to others and end up thinking differently to ourselves. We may be putting up a brave front — and our thoughts show how scared we really are.

It’s important to become conscious of this. We begin to understand more about ourselves and how we are functioning both publicly and privately.

How often are you beating yourself up? How often are you critical of yourself and others? You just might be more judgmental than you realize.

Are you praising yourself and acknowledging your accomplishments? Do you feel proud of yourself for how you are handling these times and the changes you are facing?

Notice not only the chatter, but how you are feeling at the time to see what has triggered your thoughts.

You can learn so much about your mental state and your emotional responses when you pay attention to the thoughts that you are thinking. And then you can change those thoughts to be kinder to yourself — and even others.

Stop comparing yourself to other people — When you do this, you negatively impact your own self-esteem. Does it appear that someone else has it all together and their lives look so much better than yours? We all know those people, don’t we? From the outside it appears that all looks great, but everyone has struggles, challenges and problems.

Don’t waste your energy focusing on others. Instead put the focus on how you are taking steps towards becoming the best version of you.

Be happy for them — and you will become happier about yourself. What you put out comes back to you. If you want to feel happier in your life, be happy for others and their lives. This opens you to situations, experiences and people that come in that you’ll feel happier about.

Be curious — Instead of focusing on any mistakes you feel you made or opportunities you feel you lost, ask more questions. Let these become learning opportunities.

What can you do differently next time? What can you learn from this situation — about yourself and others? What can you do to enhance your knowledge and skills to grow yourself? What can you do to prevent something similar from happening in the future? Become curious and allow yourself to grow in these times.

Laugh — Laughter lowers stress level, improves your mood and changes your outlook. Laughter is considered medicine.

There might not be a lot to laugh about right now, so find opportunities. Comedies, funny animal videos, people that brighten your day. Consider laughing at yourself instead of beating yourself up when things do not go the way you want.

Get outside — Fresh air lowers your stress levels and the sun helps you make Vitamin D which has a huge influence on your mind and your body. It also boosts your immune system.

Even if it’s cold, bundle up and take in the beauty of what nature offers — the golden sun, the trees, the blue sky. Watch how it lifts your spirits and improves your mental health.

Practice gratitude — We tend to overlook the little things that we could be grateful for. There is so much focus on the negatives in the world, put your attention on the positives instead. Best way to do that is through gratitude.

Have a gratitude journal where you list 3–5 things you are grateful for every day — or every night before you go to sleep. Or make mental notes throughout the day. When you look for what you can be grateful for, you find more things to be grateful for — and bring more peace in your life.

These are all ways to not only feel in control, but to bring happiness and joy into your day — and your life. This doesn’t mean that we are ignoring what is happening in the world, but we don’t have to get caught up in the drama and negative emotions.

I’m not making light of what is happening. I realize these are tough times for so many. I’m looking to bring light into what is happening. Fear only creates more fear.

Love allows us to step into our power and bring peace into our days.

This is the journey of self-awareness…

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Always celebrating, Dr Mehmet Yildiz, Founder & Leader of ILLUMINATION

Until next time ~

Sending you light, love — and self-awareness.

Be Well,