As Relationship Ghosting Grows
“Closing The Gap” Series Chapter 4
I wanted to dedicate this chapter to what I can only really call the etiquette of and recent strengthening of ghosting. I also want to express my views on the technicalities involved with ghosting behaviour. Not in a sense of whether or not the act of right, wrong, validated or not. Because I can only share my own thoughts and experiences.
I wanted to take a look at not necessarily the type of ghosting that is generated by lost trust or negativity, but instead the subject surrounding the type of ghosting that really is legitimately done for little, or no reason.
Trust me, it happens all the time. Many may think that there must have always been some type of reason that is valid. But people do turn flaky for no reason all the time. It seems especially so over the past 10 to 15 years.
For a long time, I had no idea why ghosting is more popular than ever before. As this series moves on, I want to present the question based on a type of scenario. Has anyone ever been ghosted by a friend of many many years, with seemingly no reason? Does it affect you in ways where your own behaviour begins to suffer because you are on the defensive, and truly believe that you deserve an explanation to your face, like any true friend, and adult should? Especially when the reasons are one giant mystery.
That is one of the constant mystery that plagues my thinking. But there is more.
When it comes to the internet and technology, It really seems as if social media has not been so positive for us socially. It seems to be a platform that is isolating, and full of the illusion of “doing good in life.” You know, “New Year, New Me,” and other related representations (portrayals).
It also connects to the rise of text messaging as I continue to work on this series, the mystery seems to finally start to unwind a bit. Because these things like social media and texting seem to make the entire idea and effort of ghosting so much easier. People even break up with spouses over social media and texting these days.
It is a double-edged sword. Because these things are meant to make life easier, better, and more interesting. Yet their ability to amplify these weird modern-day behaviours seems just too damn easy.
The negativity outweighs the positive.
I can back up these claims due to the fact that I have been just as guilty of ghosting as the next person. Although I still don’t think it’s right. Maybe I could defend my actions if I am dealing with a volatile or chaotic person/situation.
As I mentioned earlier, the real reasons, and the presence or lack of them is the next direction I want this discussion to go. Could there possibly be etiquette when it comes to ghosting? What do we as the ghosted deserve? Or do we have to so easily let go, when trying to repair the relationship?
We will look at all of that, in Chapter 5, of the Closing the Gap Series, very soon.
