Are You Trapped in Self-Doubt?

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ve a ton of advice. Change your limiting beliefs, do the shadow work, develop self-awareness, meditate, and let it go. While this is fantastic advice, very few instructions on how to do those things rarely exist. Left to our own devices, and honestly, if you already have Monkey Mind, it can add more layers.That is how I became involved in mindset coaching. I have learned tips and tricks that have helped me take a more positive flight with my “flying monkeys.” It begins with a foundation of mindfulness.We all have a personal definition of mindfulness. We start there. How do you define mindfulness?My definition started with dealing with my own PTSD, researching how the brain works with trauma, and questioning why I always fought with myself about meditation. My original definition of mindfulness as “being present in the moment” and meditation was having no thoughts and a quiet mind.Now, I define mindfulness as the foundation that leads to higher benefits with or without meditation. Mindfulness is the process of being aware of your thoughts, emotions, and reality. At least 50% of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors come from an unconscious habit of thinking. However, when we a

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re not conscious or on auto-pilot, we can’t change it.There are four traps of self-doubt: Hesitation, Hiding, Hypercritical, and Helplessness.Hesitation– triggered by uncertainty and looks like waiting, overthinking, and perfectionism.Hiding — triggered by fear of others (opinions) and overwhelm and looks like avoiding, procrastination, shrinking back, staying behind the scenes.Hypercritical — triggered by the fear of being hurt, disappointed, or failing and looks like arguing with yourself, being self-critical, or complainingHelplessness — triggered by insecurity or low self-esteem; fear of success and looks like playing victim, blaming, lack of self-trust, dependency, or defeatist attitude.Most of us have been in each of these traps at one time or another. Which one stands out the most for you? Which one is your current trap?The good news, you can learn to set yourself free from these traps by simply understanding them.Oh mine, you ask. The winner is hiding. Let me know what yours is, and then follow me as I take you through the process to move from overwhelming self-doubt to confidence.</article></body>

Are You Trapped in Self-Doubt?

I don’t know about you, but I have experienced the trap of self-doubt for almost all my life. Doubt and fear are the two most prominent dysfunctional thoughts I go through repeatedly. Some call it “Monkey Mind.”

In Buddhist terms, the monkey mind is equivalent to restless, confused, indecisive, or uncontrollable. For me, it conjures visions of the Wicked Witch’s ban of flying monkeys. The negative thoughts flight starts with the simple command of the Wicked Witch. The flight of the monkeys produces a slew of thoughts that ban together and create anxiety and dark fears. It is a quick flight to self-doubt.

Travel around the internet to explore anxiety and fear, and you can receive a ton of advice. Change your limiting beliefs, do the shadow work, develop self-awareness, meditate, and let it go. While this is fantastic advice, very few instructions on how to do those things rarely exist. Left to our own devices, and honestly, if you already have Monkey Mind, it can add more layers.

That is how I became involved in mindset coaching. I have learned tips and tricks that have helped me take a more positive flight with my “flying monkeys.” It begins with a foundation of mindfulness.

We all have a personal definition of mindfulness. We start there. How do you define mindfulness?

My definition started with dealing with my own PTSD, researching how the brain works with trauma, and questioning why I always fought with myself about meditation. My original definition of mindfulness as “being present in the moment” and meditation was having no thoughts and a quiet mind.

Now, I define mindfulness as the foundation that leads to higher benefits with or without meditation. Mindfulness is the process of being aware of your thoughts, emotions, and reality. At least 50% of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors come from an unconscious habit of thinking. However, when we are not conscious or on auto-pilot, we can’t change it.

There are four traps of self-doubt: Hesitation, Hiding, Hypercritical, and Helplessness.

Hesitation– triggered by uncertainty and looks like waiting, overthinking, and perfectionism.

Hiding — triggered by fear of others (opinions) and overwhelm and looks like avoiding, procrastination, shrinking back, staying behind the scenes.

Hypercritical — triggered by the fear of being hurt, disappointed, or failing and looks like arguing with yourself, being self-critical, or complaining

Helplessness — triggered by insecurity or low self-esteem; fear of success and looks like playing victim, blaming, lack of self-trust, dependency, or defeatist attitude.

Most of us have been in each of these traps at one time or another. Which one stands out the most for you? Which one is your current trap?

The good news, you can learn to set yourself free from these traps by simply understanding them.

Oh mine, you ask. The winner is hiding. Let me know what yours is, and then follow me as I take you through the process to move from overwhelming self-doubt to confidence.