Mental Health

Are You Ready To Cut The Emotional Chains To Your Past Abuse?

Imagine the difference this would make in your life today? You can do it in 3 simple steps.

Conservative figures state that 1 in 3 children is sexually abused before the age of 18. Add in those who are emotionally or physically abused and even these conservative numbers will double that number.

The legacy of that abuse cuts a wide path of destruction through families and society.

It causes addiction as anesthesia to pain

It fosters domestic violence

It results in highly motivated and successful individuals suddenly finding themselves “stuck”.

Here is the bottom line

You Are Not Responsible For Your Abuse.

You Are Responsible For How You Allow It To Impact Your Life

These 3 simple steps will start to break the chains binding you to your past.

Step 1 Own Your Story, But Only Your Story

Your story is what you experienced. It is what you felt during the time you were abused. It is what you felt about other people’s comments and judgments about your abuse. It is how you feel about it today.

It is not what other people said that has become commingled with your story. That is their story.

Step 2 Silence The Disempowering Voices

Other people’s stories that become commingled with your story are often their attempts to make you responsible for your abuser's choices. Things like “If only you hadn’t…..I wouldn’t have had to …..” or “You’re too ….. to ever accomplish anything” or “What makes you think that you can….?” or even “Stop trying to destroy our family.”

These are the voices of your abuser and their enablers that create conscious and subconscious barriers to your emotional freedom to create the joy and success that is waiting for you to embrace.

Step 3 Embrace Emotional Freedom

Have you ever watched birds flying and wondered about the freedom of that experience?

How would it feel to be able to fly in any direction? To explore new vistas?

Where would you go? What would you want to see?

Would you want to fly solo or as a part of a flock? Would you stay in your flock or venture out to connect with another flock?

If you had the freedom to fly as you chose how would that change your life?

That is the essence of emotional freedom. It is the freedom to chart your course. The freedom to create your goals and to focus on them to build momentum in creating the life you choose.

This can feel scary as you break the chains holding you to your past. It is a freedom you have never experienced. It represents a whole new world.

It’s ok to have training wheels on as you learn to ride the bike of emotional freedom. As a trauma recovery coach that is one of my roles.

By way of analogy think of owning your story as being a toddler excited to discover the world on their big wheels. As you silence the voices you step up to ride a child’s bike with training wheels. The training wheels help you learn to keep your balance.

Then the training wheels come off and you begin to experience emotional freedom. You are beginning to fly like a bird. You see new vistas and new possibilities. With your expanded vision you are able to see where your flight can take you.

Now imagine yourself flying down the hill to your future on a mountain bike. You feel the rush of the wind as you gain momentum seeing your dreams become your reality.

You are Finally Fully Alive and experiencing emotional freedom.

Ready to learn more?