Summary

The article "Are You Having Bad Sex? Stop That Now: Here’s How (Expert Guidance)" provides advice on improving sexual experiences by addressing common issues such as lack of respect and communication, emphasizing the importance of mutual admiration and understanding.

Abstract

The web content presents the second part of a two-part series aimed at transforming unsatisfying sexual encounters into passionate and fulfilling experiences. It acknowledges the common human experience of less-than-ideal sexual performance and emphasizes the necessity of recognizing and improving upon one's shortcomings in the bedroom. The article challenges a controversial theory suggesting that men must suspend respect for women to engage in good sex, asserting that respect is a universal concept fundamental to a positive sexual experience for all genders. It cites the Oxford English Dictionary's definition of respect to reinforce its argument for the importance of mutual regard during intimate encounters, even within the context of BDSM practices. The author, Mona Lazar, invites readers to further explore the topic by accessing additional content on a different platform, due to Medium's restrictions on sexual content distribution.

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The author commends readers for their willingness to acknowledge and address their potential shortcomings in sexual performance, contrasting this with the common obliviousness to such issues.
The article criticizes a theory proposed by an unnamed licensed psychologist, which suggests that men must turn off respect for women to enjoy sex, labeling it as horrifying and fundamentally flawed.
It is emphasized that respect is a foundational element for good sex, regardless of gender or sexual preferences, and that a lack of respect can lead to a negative sexual experience for the partner.
The author promotes the idea that understanding and mutual admiration are key components of respect in a sexual context, and this respect is crucial for a pleasurable experience for both parties.
The article suggests that continuing to have bad sex after recognizing the issue is an unacceptable behavior, implying that individuals have a responsibility to improve their sexual interactions.
Mona Lazar offers additional resources for readers interested in further guidance on the subject, indicating a commitment to providing comprehensive advice on sexual improvement.

Are You Having Bad Sex? Stop That Now: Here’s How (Expert Guidance)

Part 2 of 2.

From bad, boring, and unsatisfying to fabulous, fiery, and passionate sex, the gap seems immense. But the truth is… it’s just a matter of mental reframing and avoiding the usual traps: the fear and awkwardness of sharing naked intimacy with another human being.

If you clicked on this article because you either know you’re having bad sex or are afraid you might be offering subpar sexual moments, I have to congratulate you! Most people are utterly oblivious to the harsh reality that they’re probably not that great in bed.

Let’s face it, we’ve all been there. We’ve all seen on our partners’ faces that we could have done better. To be bad in bed is part of being human, I suppose.

But to continue down the same path once you figured it out is part of being an asshole.

That being said and labeled being placed, let’s proceed to the steps that will de-assholize you. You can read the first 5 steps in the first article of this series. It’s best to read that one first.

Are You Having Bad Sex? Stop That Immediately: Here's How (Expert Guidance)

Anyone can turn bad sex into good sex as long as they know how to do it right. All you need is expert guidance and some…

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Here are 5 more practices and happenings that make sex bad:

No respect.

I recently heard a theory that horrified me to my core. The theory states that men need to turn off their respect for a woman in order to be able to have good sex with her, because men and women understand respect differently, and a man who respects a woman in bed won’t be able to perform sexually.

Wait, what?…

To my surprise, this came from a licensed (and quite popular) psychologist who also has a Ph.D. I won’t mention his name, because I’m not into shaming people, nor do I want to make him more popular than he already is.

But we need to talk about it.

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Men and women don’t understand respect differently. That’s why we have the same dictionary for all genders.

Here’s what the Oxford English Dictionary has to say about the meaning of the word ‘respect’.

respect /rɪˈspɛkt/

a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others.

I see no gender differences.

I also want to make it very clear that unless you respect your sexual partner, their sexual experience with you won’t be pleasant. Period.

Even if you’re into hardcore BDSM and your partner enjoys public humiliation, being spit in the face, slapped, and called demeaning names, you should still respect your submissive partner.

Otherwise, they are going to have a bad time with you. And because of you.

🎈 …because Medium limits the distribution of sexual content, I invite you to join the sultry side for the rest of this article! Can’t wait to see you there! 🎈