Are You Betraying Yourself With the Famous ‘No Expectations’ Method?
No expectations, no disappointments, no awareness
The ‘no expectations, no disappointments’ method has gained a lot of ground in recent years due to a plethora of fake gurus exploiting the natural human tendency to avoid suffering.
If you, much like myself and so many others, were thinking along the lines of ‘no expectations, no cry’, you need to think again.
There is no such thing as no expectations. At its best, it’s fake. At its worst, it’s damaging to your emotional integrity.
Not expecting anything from anyone is not a real thing. It’s nothing more than a lie.
Because unfulfilled expectations lead to suffering, there was a natural conclusion that if you cut them out, you’ll also cut out pain and distress.
Sadly, it doesn’t work that way.
Expectations are ingrained in your being and it’s just the way they should be.
Imagine not expecting anything.
Your life partner to love you.
Being paid for your work.
Being treated with respect.
Having access to food and medical care.
How would that make you feel? Does it sound like the relaxed cozy life you were dreaming of?
No, it sounds like a lack of self-love.
If you don’t expect anything from people or situations, you’d accept whatever comes your way. And if you allow it, there is a lot of abuse out there just waiting to find you.
Expectations are barriers. Limits. Self-respect. They teach people how to treat you and yourself what is acceptable.
If you don’t expect something, you also don’t work towards it.
Expectations are a precursor to success. If you’re not happy with your current situation, you need to first expect it to get better in order to change it.
To have successful relationships, you first need the expectation that you will be understood, seen, and treated kindly for it to happen.
Non-expectation is nothing but a void of yourself and what you truly want. It’s betraying yourself. Your desires, your wishes, what your soul needs. It’s pretending to be ok with anything. It’s denial and self-abuse.
Desire is the spark of life.
Don’t believe what they tell you. Lack of expectations doesn’t lead to a peaceful life. It couldn’t, because there is no way to extirpate expectations from yourself. The only way to do that is to lie to yourself and everybody else that you don’t have them.
Love yourself enough to expect good things in your life.
For healthy relationships, request what you need and see who answers the call. Keep the ones who complete you and whose needs you also complete.
Be flexible on the small things, but stand firm on your core values.
For successful careers, envision what you truly want and work towards it. If it doesn’t happen, change tactics, change places, reassess.
Will you suffer? Of course! Welcome it, embrace it, it will pass anyway. It’s nothing more than an unavoidable step in this crazy ride on a cosmic blue ball that we call life. Why would you want to miss any part of it?
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