Summary

The author describes a personal journey from spiritual arrogance to embracing deep connections with others through motherhood and the study of Human Design.

Abstract

The article recounts the author's transformation from feeling like a solitary drop of water in the ocean to appreciating the collective experience of being with other droplets. Initially, the author thought they understood Oneness but later realized they were not acknowledging others. Over three phases, the author moved from spiritual arrogance, where they felt superior due to their spiritual practices, to grounding themselves through the profound love and responsibility of motherhood. Finally, the author found a deeper appreciation for human diversity through the study of Human Design, which helped them see the unique gifts in everyone.

Opinions

The author initially felt spiritually superior and disconnected from others, believing their spiritual advancement set them apart.
After acknowledging their spiritual arrogance, the author learned the importance of genuine connections and service to others.
Becoming a mother was a humbling and grounding experience that opened the author's heart and taught them the depth of love and nurturing.
The author values the insights gained from personality tools like Human Design, which they believe reveal one's natural energetic wiring and encourage authentic relationships.
The author encourages readers to explore human connections and to be nurtured by the diverse gifts within the 'ocean of Humanity'.

Are You a Lonely Drop of Water in The Ocean?

Receive the joy of being with the other droplets.

On this day 11 years ago, I shared my spiritual progress on Oneness on my Facebook profile:

I used to think that I understood the concept of Oneness, that all of us are drops of water in a neverending ocean.

Then I realized I’ve been wanting my own drop of water to fill the whole ocean, and never really acknowledging the other drops.

I remember feeling so grateful, realizing that I am a Soul living a human existence, yet I felt so lonely. It was difficult for me to relate to my colleagues and friends and even to my new friends, who I got to know through our love for New Age Spirituality.

Looking back on this memory today, I am so proud of myself and incredibly grateful to have found many new soulful connections with healers, coaches, and spiritual teachers from all over the world. I feel much closer to my family too!

I am starting to acknowledge and embrace the other water droplets in our universal ocean.

Let me share with you how I shifted from being a single drop of water in the ocean to appreciating the other droplets which are with me! 3 phases of my life led to this shift:

#1 Acknowledging my spiritual arrogance

I started exploring New Age Spirituality and learning energy healing modalities such as Reiki, Quantum-Touch, and Pranic Healing around 14 years ago, when I became a working adult.

These new experiences were so magical! I was no longer just an ordinary human living a dull and mundane existence, doomed to waste my life just working, eating, and sleeping.

It is so exhilarating to feel the way my energy expands way beyond my physical body. I often felt like I was at the top of the world!

This spiritual awakening that I had gradually led me to have some spiritual arrogance as well. I honestly believed that by being more spiritually advanced than others, I would have a longer lifespan than them too! Even though I’m very naive at being a human, I felt superior as an old soul — a soul who has lived countless lifetimes before.

Have you ever felt this way in your spiritual journey too?

Being spiritually arrogant made me feel even lonelier as I didn’t bother to connect with other people as much, which felt like a relief too, as I was so highly sensitive to energies from others. Instead, I worshipped my teachers and other intuitive readers like gurus. It was hilarious that I couldn’t bring myself to witness my teachers eating food like normal humans!

Acknowledging my arrogance, and knowing that I need to connect more deeply to others regardless of how spiritually advanced they are, helped me ground myself back to Earth again. I realize that I need to be of sincere service to others and to learn to receive from them as well.

#2 Learning to love and receive through being a mother

Being a mother is such a profound awakening to more LOVE.

I first became a mom in 2012, and it was such a challenging experience to be an Empath new mom when I was so sensitive in reacting to my baby’s every need and want.

It’s impossible NOT to stay grounded when you need to breastfeed, bathe, and change your baby’s diapers within a few hours every single day. I felt like I was pulled back to Earth in shock! Yet it is such a beautifully nurturing experience just being with my babies and connecting to their pure life force energies.

I now have 3 adorable sons! Learning to care for my young family and me in a balanced way has helped me to strengthen my skills in connecting with others authentically.

Being a mother myself and seeing how everyone else is a child of someone else definitely made me gentler and more compassionate in my daily connections with my loved ones, new friends, and acquaintances.

#3 Appreciating the diversity of humanity through Human Design

As a spiritual seeker, I am super curious about getting to know everyone’s soul gifts, yet I am socially awkward too! I love using personality tests and birth charts as tools to help my loved ones and clients appreciate themselves more at a deeper level.

I have been studying the Human Design system for the past 4 years, and it has grown to be my favorite tool for personal growth.

My Human Design Chart. Source: Jovian Archive.

Through studying and aligning with my Human Design chart, I experience so much more flow and abundance in my life. I learned how having close relationships in my life is so important to me, and how I truly love to be of service to others. Just knowing this bit about my natural energetic wiring motivates me to build new friendships and to reacquaint with existing friends.

Human Design has taught me how people can be so diverse in their talents. It inspires me to want to explore various gifts in other water droplets in this ocean of Humanity!

In a nutshell

Summarizing my 3 phases:

I removed my barrier in connecting with other people by acknowledging how I felt spiritually superior to others and letting go of that.
Loving my 3 sons has expanded my heart space, so I have become more sincere in connecting with others too.
I appreciate the diverse gifts that my family, friends, and clients have through my study in Human Design.

I love all this in-depth exploration into the ocean of Humanity, and I hope this inspires you to learn and feel nurtured by making more loving connections with other people too!