Are Dating Stereotypes Hurting You?

An introspection into the rumours

In my early adulthood, I struggled with societal expectations of dating. These standards did not represent my beliefs and personal values, often leaving me questioning my self-worth and feeling as if I wasn’t enough simply because I refused to conform to such standards.

These comments and expectations have harmful impacts on girls and women. They chip away at our self-esteem and confidence, making us question our worth and capabilities. It forces us into moulds that don’t fit us, suppressing our true potential and passions. It can lead to anxiety and self-doubt, creating a painful belief that we must change who we are to be loved or accepted.

Such stereotypes also perpetuate gender inequality, sending the message that girls are somehow less valuable or less capable than boys. We must recognize the harm these ideas cause and work collectively to dismantle them, allowing girls to grow into confident individuals who are unapologetically themselves.

To those who feel the weight of these words

I couldn’t find genuine happiness by suppressing my authenticity. I chose to break free from these suffocating standards and embrace my true self. I wanted a relationship based on respect, equality, and acceptance of each other’s uniqueness.

So, to all of you who have felt the weight of these sentences and expectations, I want you to know that you are not alone. Your worth is not defined by how well you conform to someone else’s idea of who you should be and how you should behave. You are enough just as you are, with your dreams, independence, and uniqueness.

I found love and acceptance when I embraced my authentic self. And let me tell you, it’s a love worth waiting for. 💕

Thank you for reading!

Author: Claudia Canhoto