Another one Bites the Dust

Summary

The author of the article describes their encounter with a New Zealand YouTuber, discovering he is gay, and reflecting on their past friendships with gay men, while also acknowledging a moment of attraction and the subsequent realization that the YouTuber is not a romantic prospect.

Abstract

The article titled "Another one Bites the Dust" with the subheading "All of the Best Men are Gay" recounts the author's recent experience with a New Zealand YouTuber. Initially attracted by his personality and shared interests, the author was intrigued but unsure if he was her "type." Upon learning that the YouTuber is gay through a humorous exchange, the author reflects on her positive experiences with gay friends, noting their lack of jealousy, the sense of safety, and the joy they bring. She confesses to a small crush on the YouTuber, which led to an unexpected emotional response, realizing the unlikelihood of a romantic relationship. The author concludes with acceptance of the situation, valuing the newfound friendship, and remains hopeful about finding a straight, creative partner in the future.

Opinions

The author values the qualities of gay men, such as their non-jealous nature and the safety and comfort they provide in friendships.
She expresses that gay men have been some of her best friends and have positively influenced her life, especially during difficult times.
The author admits to stereotyping based on hobbies and the presence of gay fans but quickly apologizes for the assumption.
She acknowledges the commonality of unrequited feelings, em

All of the Best Men are Gay

A week ago, I stumbled across a New Zealand YouTuber (who shall remain anonymous). Foreign origin ✔ Similar interests ✔ Great banter ✔

I wasn’t sure if he was completely “My Type” but he certainly ticked a lot of boxes… He also lives in New Zealand. Bonus!!

Finding Out He Is Gay

I found a good opportunity to casually slide in a “Is that your girlfriend or wife?” comment in one of his videos. “She looks like she could be your sister, but soulmates often look alike!”

“She’s my sister” was his response “I’m Gay! 😂”

“Ah, I wondered if you may be! 😊 Not that you seem it… you are a very manly gay man 🙂 (sorry to stereotype!) I wouldn’t automatically assume it from your hobbies but I noticed you had a few gay fans… also the Frodo comment 😂 All of the nice men are gay! I reckon we’d get on like a house on fire! 😊”

I Love Gay Guys

I went on to tell him that most of my past best friends have been gay. I always felt very comfortable around gay men because:

a) They weren’t (usually) jealous and b**chy

b) I felt safe around them… I didn’t feel like they were after more than friendship. I could be my happiest, best, cuddly self around them without them feeling like I was “Making a Move”

c) They’re so much fun! 😁 They brightened up my darker, introverted melancholic days for sure! 🌞

Confessing My Little Crush

I dared to tell him that there was a moment in his biker video where he looked extra staunch and where I almost paused the video to say “Looking Good! 😉” 😂 It was the serious look, biker gear and the walk, I told him. “That’s OK… Females can have little crush moments on gay guys too! Thanks for inspiring me to write a story about how all of the good men are gay 😄”

Now I could stop the story there, but I will over-share by saying that, as I was typing this wee crush confession… I cried. This surprised me! Feeling a little bit emo again just admitting this!

It was just a moment of releasing the wee bit of “Hope” I had in finding a rare man who I had things in common with. A feeling of disappointment I know all too well.

This will also be how many gay people feel, mind you, when they crush on someone whom they know that they could never be with, romantically speaking. I’m happy for gay men that there’s a good catch out there who will make someone very happy! 😊

I will remind myself that he isn’t completely “My Type”. I’m sure I will stumble across my creative, straight, future mate one day and I will know for sure that This is my guy. For now, I’m happy to have made a new online friend whom I can have great creatively inspired conversations with! You don’t need to be romantically involved for that 🙂

Note: I have no idea if the guy pictured is gay 😄 But he is “My Type” 😉