Angry Outbursts Are Not Worthwhile

Summary

Pamela Oglesby discusses the negative impact of anger and the importance of managing it effectively, drawing from personal experiences and a recent article on understanding angry feelings.

Abstract

In the article titled "Angry Outbursts Are Not Worthwhile," Pamela Oglesby reflects on the triggers of her own anger, such as being lied to, treated condescendingly, or unfairly. She acknowledges that stress exacerbates her susceptibility to anger. Despite past reactions to traffic incidents, she has learned to dismiss inconsiderate drivers as leading miserable lives, thus reducing her anger. Oglesby emphasizes the value of respectful communication, especially within her family, where conversational dynamics differ from her husband's upbringing. She advocates for quickly resolving anger due to its negative nature, asserting that life is too short to be consumed by such emotions. The article references her previous work, "Change Your Perspective To Understand Angry Feelings," which provides strategies for using anger constructively. She invites readers to explore "The Challenged" for more insights from writing challenges and offers options for readers to support her work, either by becoming Medium members or buying her a cup of coffee.

Opinions

Anger is a negative emotion that should be addressed and resolved quickly.
Stress can increase the likelihood of becoming angry.
Respectful treatment and communication are crucial to avoiding anger.
Traffic incidents that once triggered anger are now seen as reflections of others' unhappiness.
Listening is a key component of showing respect and love to family members.
Anger can be managed by changing one's perspective, as suggested in the author's related article.
The author values the expression and exploration of emotions through writing challenges.
Support for the author's work is encouraged through Medium membership or direct contributions.

Things That Anger Me

Today I suggested this prompt, and I got a welcome back as we missed most of October due to my husband’s and my being hospitalized due to Covid. I asked: “Do you get angry easily, or what makes you mad?”

I don’t get angry very easily, but I am human. I know I get angry more easily when I am stressed, which is probably true of most people. Things that might make me angry include:

Being lied to, especially repeatedly

Someone who talks to me in a condescending way, as being treated with respect is important to me

Being treated unfairly when I can’t do a thing about it, although that hasn’t happened in a long time

I don’t get mad in traffic anymore, but I sure used to when someone cut me off or gives me the finger when I’m already going a tad over the speed limit. I just think those people are idiots and what a miserable life they must be living. However, I don’t ever have to drive in rush hour traffic.

My husband hates to be interrupted when he is talking. That was very important in his family when he was growing up. My family gets excited and they may all talk at once, especially when we are laughing and telling crazy stories. I have worked to try not to cut him off. I know listening is really important with loved ones.

I do not like to be angry. It is such a negative emotion, so if something does irritate me I try to work through it quickly. Life is too short to be angry all the time.

I wrote an article about anger recently, which is: Change Your Perspective To Understand Angry Feelings, which is just below.

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Angry Outbursts Are Not Worthwhile

The Challenge Prompt — November 16

Things That Anger Me

Change Your Perspective To Understand Angry Feelings

How To Make Anger Work For You