Ancient Wisdom To Live Your Dream Life

“4 agreements you need to manifest hell into personal heaven”

Yesterday, sitting on my couch I was thinking about the limited beliefs we had been taught since childhood. These beliefs become so strong during adulthood that we find it hard to break those beliefs. For example, if a child is told that he/she can’t achieve anything in life, chances are that he/she will struggle for the rest of their life. These limited beliefs inhibit our growth and stop us from achieving our full potential.

We are told that we should be liked and accepted by everyone. Even as a child, our parents like and reward us when we do something good and we get punished for making mistakes. As a result, we try to please everyone to be liked or accepted. This belief becomes so strong later in life that we start acting fake in front of everyone. In that process, we lose our identity and we start hating ourselves.

We have made agreements with those beliefs and these agreements make our life hell. We need to replace all these agreements with new ones. Once we fill our mind with correct agreements, we can create heaven on earth. In his book the Four Agreements, the author Don Miguel talks about the four agreements we need to completely change our lives.

Here are those 4 agreements:

1. BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD

This is probably the most important agreement out of four. Accepting this agreement can bring great abundance to your life. The agreement says that the most important relationship in our life is with ourselves. The way we talk to ourselves determines the quality of our life. The word impeccable means “without sin”.

A sin is anything you do that goes against yourself. Sin is like a curse or blame. We start judging ourselves as soon as we do something wrong. Being impeccable implies that we take full responsibility for our actions but we don’t blame or judge ourselves.

Judging ourselves or other people has become a common norm in our society and it’s called gossip. Every day we are gossiping about other people. When we gossip about people we are liked by other people and we feel good. This goes back to the limited belief we have been taught since childhood — we should be liked by everyone.

Gossiping is bad for our relationships with people and especially for our minds. We are filling our minds with the trash whenever we gossip about people. Stop gossiping right now.

Start with yourself. Say these affirmations to yourself, “I am wonderful, I am awesome, I am the best, I will achieve something noteworthy in my life.” Make an agreement with yourself that you will not judge yourself no matter what. Stop lying to yourself and be true to your words. Repeat those affirmations after waking up and before going to bed.

I have seen some tremendous success with this agreement. I used to think that I am not athletic and I can’t learn an instrument. In the last 18 months, I have been able to run consistently every day and made progress on the guitar. This is a really powerful agreement and it can grant you a new life.

2. DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY

This agreement can end all your suffering. Remember one thing:

“Whatever anybody says or does to you is the reflection of their own personality and perceptions.”

If you are immune to the behavior of others, you have won at life. If somebody says to you, “You are an Idiot” don’t take it personally. It shows that he/she is dealing with his/her limited beliefs. They are sending this poison to you and if you think about what others say, then you are absorbing the poison which could ruin your life.

However, if you don’t think about what others say then you improve the quality of life by rejecting the poison. You don’t need anyone to tell you how wonderful and awesome you are. You don’t need people to tell you that you are doing great in life. The only person you need in your life is you.

When you don’t take anything personally, you walk with an open heart around the world. You can say, “I love you” to the person you love without fear of being rejected or ridiculed. You can follow your heart and trust yourself without thinking about others.

I think this is the most powerful agreement out of four because it ends all the suffering.

3. DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS

We tend to make assumptions about everything and the worst part is believing that our assumptions are true. If a person is not replying to our messages we assume he/she does not like us instead of communicating why they are behaving like this.

The biggest reason we make assumptions is that we don’t have the courage to ask questions.

I will give you one more example to emphasize this agreement. Think about a couple and they are celebrating their marriage anniversary. Both of them expect to get their desired gifts from their partner. They don’t communicate their feelings because they assume the other person should know what they want. But when they don’t get what they wanted, they become disappointed and start making more assumptions which worsens their relationship.

Think about it for a moment, how many friends and family members you have lost just because you did not have the courage to communicate clearly. I have personally done that. I have made a lot of assumptions about people and almost lost my best friends.

Having the courage to clearly communicate and ask questions is the way to freedom.

4. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST

This agreement says to take action on all the other three agreements. Nothing will happen if you don’t take action. Just remember:

Do your best under any circumstances. Your best will change from time to time. Your best will be different when you are healthy, sick, happy, sad, working in the morning, working in the night. By doing your best every time you will not feel guilty and you will not judge yourself.

You always do your best when you are in love with your actions, when you don’t think about the rewards, you take actions because you want to not because you have to. Most people never achieve their best because they think they have to work. They have to work to pay their bills, debts, rent, etc. They keep thinking about the rewards and don’t immerse themselves in the process.

To achieve your best, you have to be present at the moment. You have to enjoy your actions. The best people in the world focus on the process, not the results. If you don’t enjoy the actions, you begin to resist your work. When you resist your work, you never do your best.

So, to achieve your best, you have to love your actions and be in the moment.

HOW TO IMPLEMENT THESE AGREEMENTS

You can follow this step by step guide to accept these agreements and transform your life:

(i) You have to be aware of your mind. Ask yourself: what limiting beliefs are you holding in your mind right now? What are those agreements that are inhibiting your growth? Self-awareness is the first step towards mastery.

(ii) Once you have identified your limiting beliefs, take a step forward and tackle them one by one. Do the things you are afraid of doing. You will gain full mastery when you start eliminating your old beliefs and replace them with new ones. Don’t be afraid of starting from zero. Be afraid of being stuck in the old place.

I have personally applied this in my life. I used to think I can’t run or play the guitar. In the last 18 months, I have become a good runner and I can run 3 miles 5 days a week. I have learned the guitar and I can play a couple of songs. My confidence went through the roof when I started breaking my old beliefs.

If I can do it, then you can too.

(iii) Remember you are going to die anytime. What if you go to the doctor and the doctor tells you that you have a month to live. How will you spend that month? Will you be miserable that you are going to die or will you live your life to the fullest?

Have you ever seen a child? Children always seem to be happy and curious. They are living in the present moment. They don’t care about others’ opinions when they make mistakes. They keep trying until they succeed. That’s the way to live life. That’s the way to achieve joy and personal freedom.

So start living right now and do whatever you want without the fear of being judged and ridiculed.

CONCLUSION

These 4 agreements have to potential to transform your life into heaven:

(i) Be Impeccable with your word

(ii) Don’t take anything personally

(iii) Don’t make assumptions

(iv) Always do your best

You are not going to succeed in one day because growth takes time. Keep trying and don’t think about others. You are here to live your life. Don’t be afraid of taking action and making mistakes.

The quality of my life has improved since I started to follow my heart. Implement these agreements and observe changes in your life too.