An Open Letter to the Men Who Send ‘HI’ as a First Tinder Message

Summary

The article is an open letter addressed to men who use "hi" as their initial Tinder message, advising them on how to engage more effectively with potential matches.

Abstract

The author of the open letter, directed at men on Tinder, expresses frustration with the unimaginative "hi" as a first message. She emphasizes that such messages are ineffective due to the abundance of matches she receives, which gives her the luxury of choice. The article suggests that men should show initiative and creativity in their messaging by either asking interesting questions or creating hypothetical scenarios that reflect a woman's preferences and values. The author's preference is for messages that demonstrate understanding and effort, which she equates with desirable traits in a partner. She also hints at a disinterest in superficial wealth, focusing instead on shared experiences and environmental consciousness.

Opinions

Men should take the initiative in sending the first message on Tinder, regardless of who swiped first.
A simple "hi" message is insufficient and will likely be ignored in favor of more engaging messages.
Even a forward message like "ONS?" is preferable to "hi" as it elicits a response, albeit potentially negative.
The author values thoughtful questions that show an understanding of her preferences, such as color choices, which she humorously links to intelligence and penis size.
Hypothetical scenarios that involve experiences like travel and environmental activism are seen as attractive conversation starters.
The author is not impressed by wealth but is looking for genuine connections and shared values.
She encourages men to improve their Tinder messaging game to increase their chances of a response.

1. Ask me an interesting question

It could be as simple as Waffles or Pickles?

But you can do better.

Should I pick you up with my Ferrari or my Porsche for our date tomorrow? (The Ferrari is vermilion and the Porsche cobalt.)

The key fact isn’t that you’re filthy rich; I don’t care about that.

I want to be understood.

Vermilion and cobalt show you know how important color matching is for a woman like me. It also shows you’ve got a wide palette, which happens to correlate with penis size. (According to my research.)

2. Use a hypothetical scenario

If you could take Friday off and fly with me in my private jet to any place on the planet, where would we plant some trees?

The key fact isn’t that you’re filthy rich; I don’t care about that.

I want to have an experience, and I want to make the world a better place for our future children.

Traveling to new places and planting trees to reduce carbon dioxide in the atmosphere, that’s a perfect combo!

That’s it for today. Remember, if you say “hi,” I don’t even reply.

I trust you can improve your Tinder game. Till then,

Swiping left on you, A woman with better options

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OPEN LETTERS

An Open Letter to the Men Who Send ‘HI’ as a First Tinder Message

Just stop

One — First message

Two — Hi there

What can you do instead of sending these non-messages?

1. Ask me an interesting question

2. Use a hypothetical scenario

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