Summary

The content is an open letter from an individual to their BFF, expressing the evolution of their personal growth and the challenges it poses to their friendship.

Abstract

In an open letter to their best friend, the author reflects on their personal transformation, which has led to a shift in dreams, aspirations, and habits. They acknowledge the difficulty in accepting change, especially when it leads to a disconnect from shared past experiences. The author emphasizes the importance of embracing the present and future, and expresses frustration over their friend's inability to support their new interests and self-expression. Despite the tension, the author cherishes the history of their friendship and proposes a renewal of their bond by respecting each other's growth and boundaries.

Opinions

The author feels they have outgrown their past self and is happier with their current identity, which their BFF struggles to understand.
There is a sense of annoyance towards the friend's tendency to dwell on the past and fail to engage with the author's newfound interests.
The author is hurt by the friend's dismissive attitude and negative impact on their excitement and dreams.
They express a desire for their friend to be more open-minded and to stop imposing their conservative views and fears on them.
The author values self-expression and the freedom to live an adventurous life without being constrained by their friend's risk-averse nature.
Despite the challenges, the author deeply cherishes the memories and support provided by the friend in the past.
They suggest that both friends should give each other space and time to grow individually while continuing to support one another.
The author is open to reviving the friendship by embracing the changes and finding common ground in their evolving interests and priorities.

An Open Letter To My BFF

Bring with you an open mind

Dear BFF, I understand it is hard for you to believe that I have become a different person. My priorities in life have changed. My dreams and aspirations are far-fetched from what we once planned together.

It was not easy for me either. It took me breaking some old habits, fighting a few battles, hitting actual rock-bottoms, taking a leap of faith, and emerging through it all to become this NEW me. I have evolved.

Here is what I wish you knew:

Please stop complaining that I have changed. I have outgrown the past version of myself. And I am finally happy to be serving the best version of me in all tenses. But you regret my changes because you are not able to relate to me anymore.

I have not forgotten the past. I am just incapable of dwelling on it.

You take pride in bringing up the same fights a couple of decades later. I am embarrassed for you. It is plain abuse of your mind, my time, and to all the distastefulness that follows.

When You Have Nothing Nice To Say, Say Nothing At All.

When I have a newfound interest to share with you, please do not quote the boring experiences of your coworkers. Although they may have also attempted something remotely similar. Please do not be my Excitement killer.

You want me to live a risk-free life. I would rather be a dead bug. You think I should care for my knees when I find my solace in running. You wonder why I love to read non-fiction. You never once read the stories I write.

My only fear is not being able to live up to my own expectations. Nothing else scares me. Please stop imposing your unknown fear on me. Please stop killing the fun out of my living.

I know you are very conservative. Swear words are also unparalleled expressions. Please stop asking me to watch my language when I am in the middle of expressing myself. Please do not be my Expression killer.

I am breaking taboos, moving forward, expanding my horizon. You constantly remind me what I want to overcome. Please stop being my doubtful conscience. Please stop being the Killer of my dreams.

Every single dismissal from you leaves a deep scar inside me. I want that to stop. I want someone who will make me believe in what I think I can do.

I Wonder If It Is About Time To Outgrow Our Friendship.

I am tired of convincing you about my different choices in people and things. Sometimes, they are so deviating from what you may want for me. After all, we have our own lives, and why not make peace in living our respective lives?!

You think I am crazy to connect with strangers who share common interests with me. You warned me there could be pretense out there. I am glad you care. I am sorry, I thought we were adults.

Sometimes, I have to freeze my brain so I can tolerate what you have to say. And other times, I can predict the exact words you will say.

Our friendship consistently weighs me down, pulling me back with the strings from the past. Again, I am not trying to forget the past. I am just more focused on the present and excited about the future.

In your mind, you and I are the same people we once were. But, we are NOT. We are both unique in our own ways. I only wish you will realize it soon too.

We have nothing in common anymore except our past. I am constantly shrinking myself to fit into our friendship circle. I miss being myself all the time.

I want to choose excitement over boredom, self-expression over good language, fun over risk-free, and dreams over doubts & fears.

I am tempted to choose my sanity over our friendship.

Three Big Cheers To Our Friendship.

A couple of decades ago, we met at the right place and at the right time. We were just not friends. We were destined to be best friends. We had a beautiful friendship that beat the odds.

I still think of those days when you were the only one who waited for me during the lunch hour on the first day of high school. You were the one who always smiled back at me and gave me a reason to laugh.

You accompanied me like a shadow, even during the day. You helped me find strength in my very lows. You listened to me with utmost patience even when I had to repeat it over and again. You walked with me through my thick and thin.

You enabled me to do better when I failed. And celebrated with me in my wins. You have always only wished me well. You have encouraged me to be a better human. You were the first to notice compassion in me.

When we were asked to write an essay about Best Friend. And when You and I wrote about each other, it was not a coincidence. When we parted, our friendship lasted through e-mails and calls. It survived through our marriages and kids. I am not taking it for granted.

All our together times, the good, bad, and the ugly are sealed safe in my heart forever.

My Final Call:

Our friendship is truly one-of-a-kind. I want it to be cherished forever, not dreaded over. And there are things we can do to revive back our friendship:

we can resolve to find peace in living lives on our own terms by giving each other the space and time we deserve.

We can show some respect to our boundaries and treasure our values for each other. Let’s put some effort and time and embrace this new version of our friendship.

I will always find new friends to share my interests, spark enlightening conversations, and light up my wild side of humor. But, it might be too late for me to find someone to pick the silly fights and throw mud at each other [literally] and compete with each other for nothing but fun. And laugh hopelessly at each other.

I may not live up to another twenty-three years to be part of a legacy friendship like this. So, for that very reason, I will keep you.

I want our friendship journey to continue through our passions, our ever-growing new interests, and the changing priorities.

I believe our bond will become unbreakable when you level up to relive the intensity of my emotions in this letter. Until then, let’s continue to grow at our own pace. And continue to be there for each other.

Together, let us take a vow today to never outgrow our friendship!!