Aggression Needs to be Dealt With Sympathy and Not Hatred

Aggressive behavior is quite natural for some and needs to be dealt with love

A person has certain tendencies that may not be openly discussed and is always kept under a wrap. One such tendency is that of being aggressive. In the current world, aggression is looked down upon and aggressive people are generally dealt with hatred. Is this approach towards aggression a correct way to deal with it? Won’t it introduce guilt and fear amongst people who are quite aggressive?

Aggression stems from fear

When a person is young he may have to deal with a situation that introduces fear in him. In order to not get in touch with this fear, the person becomes aggressive. This aggression then leads to further incidents associated with fear and the cycle continues.

Example: Ram had an infatuation towards girls and once he was reprimanded by his family member for showing interest in watching a sensual scene on television. That incident introduced fear in Ram’s mind and he would require aggression to not get in touch with it. He would have feelings of guilt whenever he gets excited upon looking at girls and would use willpower and aggression to avoid getting in touch with his true feelings. Living in fear and guilt further introduced him to various other untoward situations that further introduced fear and the cycle continued.

“Apart from fear being the source of aggression, the various hormones of the person too amplify the aggressive behavior.”

Aggression is normally dealt with hatred

Aggressive behavior by a person starts a chain of thoughts in the person receiving the aggressive behavior and mostly leads to some fearful thoughts from his past. The person would then want to avoid the fearful thought by being aggressive and hateful to the person who is behaving aggressively.

Example: Valentin is reprimanded by his boss for a mistake he made in his job. This caused a chain of thoughts in Valentin’s mind and led to an incident from his childhood days where he was reprimanded by his father for being unruly. This resultant fearful thought in Valentin made him not think about the situation logically and instead become hateful towards his boss.

Thus, we see that it is the fearful incidents stored in our subconscious that are instigated when someone acts aggressively with us. This eventually leads us to not have compassion for the other person and we too act in an aggressive manner.

How to have sympathy for aggressive behavior?

To have sympathy for aggressive behavior actually requires quite a lot of inner work. One has to clean his subconscious mind of various negative emotions associated with fearful situations from the past.

Catharsis and refinement of the inner child go a long way in revamping the content of the subconscious mind. The aggressive behavior by the other person would then not lead the chain of thoughts to reach fearful incidents from the past and the person can respond logically and with compassion.

Example: Valentin worked upon his fearful impressions stored in his subconscious mind and took them out of his system by the process of catharsis and refinement of the inner child. For the specific incident involving his father, he vented out the anger and later was able to forgive his father for his aggressive behavior.

Eventually, when Valentin’s boss again reprimanded him, the chain of thoughts originating in Valentin didn’t lead to fearful incidents from his past and he was able to analyze the situation logically and even had compassion for his boss.

Removing hatred would remove guilt

In the current world, aggressive people are living under a feeling of guilt as they are looked down upon by the majority of people. Aggression is a weakness just like any other weakness and requires compassion in order to deal with it. If we are hateful towards aggressive people then it will introduce feelings of guilt in them and they will not be able to lead life happily.

Again, physical aggression is required to be contained but it can be done with love. One can even go to court for physical aggression but with love in their heart. Having hatred is actually a sign that there is something wrong within us only so whenever we have hatred it is time to do some self-analysis and some inner work.

Conclusion

People are not aggressive because they are happy doing so. In fact, they are struggling to deal with their emotions and past fearful incidents stored in their subconscious mind. Such people need to be dealt with compassion and love. The fact that someone can deal with love entails a lot of inner work and is indicative of emotional maturity along with clearing his subconscious mind of fearful incidents. Remember being aggressive is quite easy but it takes a lot of inner work to show compassion and love even when one is dealt with aggression.