After Being Single for Over 15 Years, I Manifested True Love. Here Are My 5 Steps, Using the Law of Attraction

If I can do it, you can do it too

In autumn 2020, right in the middle of Covid-19 lockdowns, I manifested the woman of my dreams.

At that time, I had been single for over 15 years and had just recovered from yet another episode of heartbreaking unrequited love.

And thanks to Covid-19 induced exit restrictions and work-from-home policies, I was suddenly spending almost all of my days alone in my flat.

How did I manifest romance under these conditions? By using the Law of Attraction and, more specifically, the following 5 steps:

1. Set A Clear Intention

I thought it “would be nice” to be in a romantic relationship for many years. And while I enjoyed daydreaming and feeling the high of crushing on someone new, I had limiting beliefs around relationships and love.

I was filled with self-doubt and wondered how someone could ever love me.

Conditioned by a childhood filled with emotional neglect and growing up with severe social anxiety, I had to learn over many years to recondition my subconscious mind.

I also needed to learn to trust people, and I needed to know myself. For many years I thought I wanted a relationship. Still, I realize now that limiting beliefs and subconscious fears were holding me back.

However, this time, I was 100% certain that I was ready for love.

I made it clear to the universe that I wanted to be in a committed partnership with someone who loves me just as much as I love them.

2. Write Out My Perfect Day With My Ideal Partner

When the German government announced Covid-19 lockdowns and the company I worked for let go most of their staff, I took some time to re-evaluate my life and where I was going.

I have wanted to change careers for a while, but fear of the unknown and the comfort of a secure income kept me from taking necessary risks. I was comfortable but not fulfilled.

So in the spring of 2020, I sat down to write out my perfect day. Here is the beginning of that journal entry:

“I wake up next to my beautiful girlfriend. I take a moment to appreciate her beauty and the perfect life I am living with her.

She is beautiful and full of love for me. She accepts and loves me completely as I accept and love her completely.

She is kind, positive, and emotionally available. We share the same values, and our relationship is filled with passion, laughter, and harmony.

Before I get up, I kiss her slightly, knowing we are a perfect match.”

Notice how I didn’t write out specifics about her looks. It doesn’t matter if my girlfriend has blue eyes or brown ones, short or long hair. I have crushed on all kinds of different women, and they all looked different.

Instead, I focused on how I wanted to feel in that relationship and the character traits she should embody.

One day I returned from my morning run and, after showering, went back to bed to cuddle with her. It suddenly hit me that we had the exact relationship I described in “my perfect day.”

Most of our mornings turn out precisely as described in that journal entry.

3. Act As If I Was Already In A Romantic Relationship

It is often said that we don’t attract what we want, but what we are. I like the exercise of “acting as if” to change some aspects of my personality and life.

For example, when I decided to become a writer, I asked myself how I would live if I had already achieved that goal? The most obvious answer was that I would treat writing like my job, not a hobby. And with that, I made changes to my schedule and daily habits.

I did the same when I decided to attract true love.

I asked myself how I would act and feel if I was already in a committed, fulfilling relationship and acted that way.

I put on make-up and wore clothes that made me feel beautiful and took extra time to do my hair.

I listened to happy love songs while I worked. I visualized how I would go on road trips with my girlfriend during the summer and got excited about it.

4. Focus On The Love Already In My Life

What you focus on expands. Often, when we are looking for love, we focus on the lack of it. We ask ourselves why we are still single and wonder if we ever will be loved.

This can become a hard-to-break block in our love lives.

We feel lonely and say, “I don’t want to be lonely anymore.” Instead of focusing on what we want — love — we focus on what we don’t want — loneliness.

Once I had written out my perfect day and decided that I was ready for true love, I consciously focused on the love and abundance already in my life.

I gave thanks daily for my friendships and the good relationships with my siblings. I went outside more often to feel the abundance of nature.

I also made a point to be a source of love by checking in with friends more often, asking how they are doing, and telling them how much they mean to me.

5. Letting Go And Trusting The Universe

This step has always been the hardest for me when trying to manifest my desires. I think for many people, it is.

However, I also think it is one of the most important.

I am very goal-driven and often have an “I can do it by myself” attitude. Hence, I have difficulty letting go of control and trusting the universe and divine timing.

This time, it was different.

The Covid-19 induced fear of spending months, if not years, without a social life, made me question if I needed another person in my life to be fulfilled and happy. I was questioning why I even wanted romantic love in the first place.

One day I wrote in my journal:

“I am finally ready for true love. I am done with heartbreaks and bullshit. True love or no love at all. And if you want me to stay single for the rest of my life, universe, then that’s ok. I am ok with being alone.”

I finally let go of the need to run after love. I was chasing it like a child running after a butterfly. Always so close, but never catching.

And once I let go, love entered my life.