Adhesion Erosion

Summary

The text reflects on the metaphorical concept of adhesion in relationships, comparing it to the stubbornness of contact cement and the eventual erosion of bonds, leading to vulnerability and personal growth.

Abstract

The author, Denise G, an empath and creative, uses the analogy of strong adhesion, akin to contact cement, to describe the difficulty in moving on from deep connections. Initially resistant to change, the author finds hope when the bond begins to weaken, eventually falling away and leaving them feeling exposed. This process mirrors the author's personal journey of emotional release through creativity, which includes writing, photography, and painting. The text suggests that the fear of forming new, potentially inappropriate bonds is a protective mechanism, and the erosion of old attachments is part of a transformative life phase.

Opinions

The author expresses a desire for emotional detachment, likening it to the ease of breaking a bond with plain white glue.
There is a sense of resignation and acceptance in living with the strong adhesion, implying a struggle with change.
The author acknowledges the discomfort of vulnerability that comes with the loss of a protective bond.
The text conveys a realization that the fear of bonding with the wrong person was a self-imposed barrier to growth.
Denise G views their current life stage as a period of rebirth and creativity, suggesting a positive outlook on personal evolution.

Adhesion Erosion

Why does it stick so bad? Why did you have to be contact cement and not just plain white glue? You know the kind of glue that loses adhesion when conditions become less than ideal, temporary. I pry and pull to no avail, it is not going to move.

Maybe I can live with it? But, that would mean no room for the new. I feel a corner lift, there is hope.

I go on my way, tending to me.

Days go by and I don’t think about this strong adhesion.

Weakening, the bond erodes. Then one day it falls away.

I feel naked and vulnerable.

Maybe it wasn’t about you at all?

Maybe it was the bonding feeling itself, that was my wall and my perceived protection, the fear of bonding with someone else that shouldn’t be bonded to me at all.

Denise G

A Short Bio

An empath with newly discovered passion for writing. I find writing helps me release emotions that I carry, sometimes they are not even my own emotions, an emotional sponge so to speak. Creativity is where I find balance and release. I’m a long time photographer, mostly nature and travel photography and have recently started painting as well. I am in my renaissance, metamorphic stage or mother to crone transition in life.

I have a personal blog which contains some of my writing and photography.