If You Have Negative People in Your Life, Do This
Doing this changed my life
Perhaps you have a friend, and that friend, rather than being supportive, is being constantly critical. Perhaps it is a lover, and that lover is constantly on your back in a negative way. Whoever it is if there is a person or persons in your life who are constantly making you feel down, constantly filling you with negative feelings and emotions, then that person or those persons are a big problem. The reason being, they are hindering your chances of being happy.
The question is what to do about them? Well, the solution is technically simple but also highly complex and frequently very difficult. But there is a solution, and that solution is: kick them out of your life.
If a person or persons is inflicting negativity upon you, you need to cut them from your life, plain and simple. If you can’t do that, you need to put as much distance between yourself and that person or those persons as you can.
This may seem a ruthless course of action, but if someone is constantly putting you down, I want to repeat that for emphasis, if someone is constantly putting you down, by cutting them out of your life you are being no more ruthless with them than they are being with you.
You can of course always discuss the negativity they’re inflicting upon you with them, and of course as a first course of action you should do so, but if it doesn’t work or you’ve already tried and it hasn’t worked, there is only one solution: get them gone.
Will doing so be easy? Rarely, after all, there are some people we simply can’t kick out of our lives, and even the people that we can kick out of our lives rarely is it easy to do so. But just because it is not easy doesn’t mean it should not be done, the reason being, by kicking out people who are negative towards us, we are creating the space we need in our lives for the people who bring us positive vibes.
And again, this may seem harsh, kicking people out of our lives and replacing them, but to escape negativity and live a life of happiness, you must cut out negativity.
That means even if a person is unintentionally bringing negativity into your life, perhaps they’re having a hard time and are constantly unloading everything upon you, but they are not and have not ever done the same in return for you, and you know they never would, then you need to remove that negativity from your life and, I’ll say it again, provide yourself space in your life for the people who will bring you positive energy.
If this person relies upon you it may seem cruel, but if you can’t rely upon them, unless you are willing to help them regardless, which is fine, totally okay. Sometimes we just wish to help people because we can and doesn’t that make the world a beautiful place that that happens and that we do that for each other.
But there has to be a limit, and that’s because we all only have so much to give and you cannot help a person if you need help yourself, all that will happen is that in doing so you will destroy yourself. Besides that, the fact is if you are helping a person, and they are not and would not help you in return, unless there is a very good reason for that, then that person does not deserve your help anyway.
Even if there is a good reason, there is still no benefit to continuing to support them to the level you are if in doing so you are destroying yourself, the reason being, all that will happen is that eventually, you will have to stop supporting them anyway because you will be incapable of doing so. The reason, you will be consumed by such negativity, that your mind will be broken.
That’s why often the best way to help others, is by first helping yourself because a healthy and happy you can give a lot more than a broken you.
And the best way to help yourself is by keeping the negative people out of your life because doing so helps you keep enough space to allow positive people to come into it.
I learned this the hard way and allowed a lot of negativity into my life before it finally dawned upon me that doing so was not wise. The moment I did realise, the moment I started to remove that negativity, everything started to change for the better, not only did my mental state greatly improve, everything improved — even my ability to support those I wished to support.
Final words
The people in your life should have your back, just as you have theirs, they should bring positivity to your life, just as you bring positivity to theirs, they should listen to you just as you listen to them. If they don’t, how could they ever expect you to be happy, and if they don’t want you to be happy why are they in your life?
Every time a person comes into my life, I remember the above statement and act accordingly based upon it. And what a difference it has made to my life. Maybe it can make the same difference for you.
That’s all from me, thanks for reading!
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