A Writer’s Patience Comes Along Quietly

Growth cannot be rushed, in a popular writer’s dominated corner. Step up your writing techniques, hone your craft, and put your head down and write. Just write.

We experience the feeling when life doesn’t fall into our expectations. We stomp our feet and demand someone to listen. We feel out of sorts when we are passed by for some ridiculously written poor-styled article after we struggled to get the words just right.

We see the rising stars, tried to emulate them, and utterly failed.

→What went wrong?

Perspective

The determination to succeed is dependent on one focus: What works for you. Every single author passes the test of struggle and stress in the purpose to write. You cannot push yourself to be seen, nor can you demand your way to success.

Some get connections right away, make hundreds of dollars and gloat all over the place about it. Others, maybe make a small sum and are satisfied.

→What makes the difference?

Perspective makes the output worth the effort.

You’ll not get far, here on the Medium platform or somewhere else if you neglect to write for yourself first, others second, and for monetary gains third. Perspective. Where is your focus?

Discouragement

Pressure to be seen, to be noticed, to be number one is a sure-fire way to drop out of view. We throw a cloak of despair and demand notice; we hope people see us and beg us to stay.

Negative-focused behaviors, which detract from the purpose, taint your work. Maybe you’ll get immediate attention, but the longevity will disappear.

When you throw a temper tantrum as an adult, it comes out in your writing. Time to pull up the big person's boots and get busy. Quit looking for someone to notice you.

→For crying out loud, we all have been there. Write. Just freaking write.

Self-care

Downtime arrives. The more you struggle in the dark days, the more you’ll slip back into impulsive and destructive behavioral patterns. Step back, breathe, begin again.

• Reduce your drive.
• Focus on a simple goal.
• Write to live, and then write your book, your blog post, your articles.

You’ll not get anywhere without a self-care routine. Do the stuff writing is made from: explore life around you. Remember your dreams. Find your niche. Hone your skill, but step back and give yourself a day off from even thinking about an article.

Can you shut it down for a day? If you say no, you’d better consider what is up with your thinking and give your brain a break. Most writer’s blocks come from dumping out more words than they take in.

Write the book, continue to journal

The writer dreams of the book they want to write. They dream so much, they neglect to write. Can you do both and remain sane? Yes!

My world increased in a hectic schedule. I created a website, updated a past website I created, and created brochures, business cards, and still made time to write, read, and dream.

Thanks to writing on the platform, I learned about SEO, how to write captivating titles from editors, explored the importance of subheadings, and exploration of word connections.

My experience came from listening to the teachers, the authors, and the storytellers. Then, I stepped back and took a break. Read, write, learn, repeat, rest = a growth mindset without undue pressure.

What made the difference?

→Downtime: complete shut down of all technology every day for a couple of hours. The computer rested on the desk with the charger plugged in while I embraced a book.

My cue was not to work while the laptop is plugged in to charge. The built-in time factor helps me focus on what is most pressing, not useless words tapped out endlessly with no purpose.

Perspective makes the output worth the effort.

Execute the plan

Make a plan, set a schedule, follow as best you can for a good three weeks (21 days to form a habit), and you’ll find yourself less stressed or worried about what every other Tom, Dick, or Harry is doing.

What matters now is what you are doing. Forget the clusters of cliques and groups. Write because the words live in you. Write because your story is powerful. Write because to not write, hurts your soul.

Read, write, learn, repeat, rest = a growth mindset without undue pressure.

If you feel like that, then writing becomes your tool for self-expression. Not for glory or demand. Writing becomes you. You become the writing. Back and forth is the seesaw of words.

Takeaway concepts:

• Chip away at the novel.
• Write in a journal.
• Keep notes.
• Take self-care breaks.
• Don’t look at the success of others.
• Focus on your writing.

If the above tips help you slow down and process in a direct and focused manner, then I want to cheer you on. If you found none of the tips helped, go and take a walk, come back and read it again.

You’d be amazed at what a break will do to find your niche, place in line, and focus. The writing I do is meant to inspire.

Key factor for me: Reduce stress about the outreach, and simply send the message out and process the positive motivation behind your work.

~Just a thought by Pamela

Here is another article I found inspirational when the writing days waned by Tim Denning:

And here is a genuine article to pull you out of the slump by George J. Ziogas

Thank you for reading!

About Me: Pamela J. Nikodem, MS immersed herself in studies surrounding relationships, domestic violence, and trauma. Her focus is to guide men into a place of peaceful assertiveness. She holds three jobs: An Intern at Roger’s Behavioral Health focused on Addiction and Mental Health; Catholic Charities as a D.V. Educator, and teaches violin at Jim’s Music Center in Green Bay, WI. In her spare time, she writes poetry and self-help articles. ©2020