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A Woman Should Not Do These Four Things, Otherwise, He Will Have More Problems

When he gets used to your tolerance and gentleness, he forgets to put himself in your shoes.

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In relationships, the most tiring ones are often those women who are sensible and infatuated. They put a lot into their relationship but unexpectedly caused him to develop all kinds of bad habits.

A woman must not be too nice to a man, especially when it comes to these 4 things, she must have her own bottom line!

01 Too good-tempered and won’t refuse

No one in this world is born with a bad temper. In the final analysis, they are all habituated.

If a woman has a good temper and is easy to talk to, she will easily develop a man’s bad temper.

Some women are always accustomed to acting based on a man’s face. No matter what the man asks for, she agrees to it and never refutes it.

When he gets used to your tolerance and gentleness, he forgets to put himself in your shoes, forgets to consider your feelings, and forgets that you also need to be considerate.

Over time, a man will feel that he should have the final say on everything, so he becomes more and more chauvinistic. As long as you don’t get what he wants, he will get angry and get angry at you.

Everything must have a degree. For such a man, if you are always easy to talk to, he will become even more aggressive.

A smart woman must know how to say no at the right time. Only when you dare to express your opinions and attitudes will a man respect you from the bottom of his heart.

02 Unconditional tolerance in everything

Many women will take the initiative to accommodate men for the sake of family harmony. Even if they are wronged, women will choose to be tolerant.

But if you give in on everything, the final result will be that men not only don’t know how to cherish but will become more and more ruthless and indifferent.

Because he knows that you will give in and without the desire to conquer, he will treat you with a condescending attitude and not take you to heart.

Especially when two people quarrel or have conflicts, he will habitually start a cold war with you and force you to bow down with an indifferent attitude.

And this kind of indifference is precisely the result of being tolerated by women.

Tolerance is mutual and has a bottom line. Unconditional tolerance is not only condoning the other half but also a kind of harm to oneself.

As a woman, you must know how to cherish yourself and not always swallow your anger. If you don’t care about your own feelings, how can a man care about you?

03 Did all the housework

In life, there are many men who are lazy and lazy all day long and never do housework. Often, behind this, there is a hard-working and virtuous woman.

In relationships, women are often accustomed to selfless dedication and are willing to give up and sacrifice some precious things, such as career, time, and energy, for men, children, and families.

Washing, cooking, mopping the floor, making soup, taking care of this family and this man from the inside out, from head to toe.

Maybe at first, he will feel touched, but as time goes by, he will get used to your efforts and feel that all this is what you should do.

This kind of hard work and uncomplaining will not only not be appreciated by him, but will also lead to the bad habit of men “reaching for clothes and opening their mouths for food”.

Things are thrown everywhere, stinky shoes and socks are not washed, even bottles that fall over are too lazy to help, and all the housework is left to you.

To put it bluntly, in his eyes, you have become a free nanny.

Consideration is not just indulgence, feelings also need to be shared.

Women should not always work hard and shoulder the tasks that men should do. Otherwise, in the end, they will be exhausted, thankless, and criticized by others.

04 too humble in relationships

If a woman is too humble in relationships, men will look down on her.

In relationships, some women are insecure and have no confidence in themselves. They always feel that they are not worthy of their partner, so they are cautious in everything, for fear that men will leave them.

However, once a woman gives up her dignity and often humbles herself to please a man, slowly, the man will feel that you are worthless.

So, in the end, he completely ignored you and deceived and betrayed you unscrupulously.

He may go out to spend time and debauch behind your back, and use the money you save from living frugally to buy bags and jewelry for other women.

Even if a woman loves a man, she must have her own principles and bottom line. Don’t love too humblely. Once a man touches your bottom line, you must not forgive him easily.

Blindly appeasing or being too tolerant will not only fail to win his sincerity, but will also increase his arrogance and make him hurt you again and again.

In every happy relationship, respect and tolerance are mutual. If the balance is lost, happiness will disappear.

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